There is something I don't understand...

Hello. I made this new thread because there is something that is puzzling me. I don't understand something. Why do my bosses hate me? I have had several bosses that got mad at me and then yell at me. Then there was some that would throw me under the bus. They would come after me and then I would be in trouble. I didn't know what I did to make them upset like this. In my mind I didn't do anything wrong. But they are upset and I am in trouble. Then before they would get mad someone else would tell them something and then they would believe them. Instead of asking me and then finding out what happened. Then for some reason I got fired once because of that but I really quit and they ignored me when I said I quit. Then this one time and it happened just recently I would tell them what happened and then they would go back to doing that thing again where they believe what someone told them and then come after me. I don't know what is going on. I quit the job but they decided to still come after me for posting reviews about the company on the internet. They thought that we were on good terms. I don't know what that means. All I did was quit. How are we on good terms? I gave her a termination letter too. Then she said I was attacking her online but all I did was leave a review. I got a threatening text message saying they would take me to court over a review. Huh? I told my boss to leave me alone and stop texting me because I don't work with her anymore and that is when she threatened court. I was confident and assertive and there was no reason to threaten court. I was not upset. I was firm. I told her to leave me alone because she was being rude for texting me and it wasn't about work it was personal. Then my advocate that helped me get a job because of Autism agreed with the boss that threatened me and then got mad and then yelled at me over email. My advocate took my bosses side. I don't know why because my boss has been horrible to me. Then my advocate in the email said " If you have a problem work it out with her".  Huh? There was no problem. But in the past I told her things and she ignored me. I quit. There is nothing to work out anymore. We weren't friends or anything. It was just a business relationship. I am done with the job and she still attacks me and stalks me because I left a review? I don't know what kind of people I am meeting but they are bad because they come after me for no reason. Also I tell people I am confused why they are upset but they just ignore me and keep asking me questions about what I did and why I did something. I didn't do anything. I didn't do anything wrong. This isn't just with customer service jobs this with all the jobs I have had. The bosses seemed to hate me and I don't know why. They get mad and yell at me and try to humiliate me on purpose in front of everyone. People often times ignore what I say. They know I want to be heard but they don't care and continue to ignore me. I had a boss say he didn't care about me. I don't know why he said this. Then he said my name wrong but he said he had a crush on someone in front of my face and he was looking at me. He yelled at me and asked me why I didn't tell him about the call one time. I am not sure why I am being mistreated like that. I don't know what I did. I am very confused about what is going on. Why are they so angry? I was going to tell him but he answered the phone and didn't want to interrupt. I was going to tell him after he got off but then he got mad and then I am confused and didn't know what he was doing. People give me BS all the time and I am sick of it. I am being bullied and I don't know why. This happened after I told them I have Autism. I am very confused. My boss thought it was funny he was mean to me and he wanted me to be scared but I wasn't. I asked him something and then he said remember the time so and so asked me about something. He was talking about me and then I  only just asked him at that moment and then he said remember the time after. What the heck? I don't know what is wrong with people. He was mocking me and making fun of me? I don't know what he was doing but it was weird and didn't make sense to me. I feel like people just think I am a joke and the make fun of me. Then they act like I am some weirdo because I wanted to have a job and I am disabled. 

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  • It's difficult to give advice because I don't know all the facts.

    You could start by separating your personal life from your professional life.  Once you left a company don't slag them off on the internet, even if what you say is a true opinion.

  • I did separate my personal life from my professional life. Again, I don't know what your talking about . Your not making any sense to me. 

  • I think what he means is once I am no longer working with a company in a professional manner, Then it's good to not engage with them or even review them while I'm at home - in my personal life - even if I think someone isn't doing their job well. Sometimes it's not my job or role in life to "Play G-d".

    While yes, Americans do this ALL the time and you've probably been told to always 'speak your mind' and 'never hold back', Neurotypicals are NEVER actually authentic. But, in the States most have become very selfish, self-serving and immature and it makes matters much much worse for those of us who are already having difficulty understanding Social Codes. (Secret codes NTs exchange with each other that we tend to not pick up on - ones that make it easy for them to just get along in normal life). 

    Neurotypical individuals play social games of domination. Some do it better than others. Companies encourage "reviews" as a type of controlled consumer game this because it gives individuals a fake feeling of superiority and ownership, which plays right back into a sort of slavery-mode of consumerism. 

    When Autistics try to mimic NT behaviour it never goes well. We're blunt. We're less eloquent, we don't use the correct words and phrases so we can look a bit 'psycho'. We don't virtue signal well either, because playing a subtle game of "I'm also a victim and your a victim, and we're in this together" ALSO entails a clever way of stating I'm less of a victim than you, It's a type of fascism and really creepy if you start looking into the sociology of it. This is what reviews are all about: Playing games.

    I would really encourage you to study ethics or the psychology of human behaviour to get a better handle on what's happening around you. Assume that everything you may think you know about socialising isn't True in the least. Start there and go down a rabbit hole if you must! 

  • Fascinating!

    I don't understand Epic_gamer or his behaviour, all this talk about reviews on social media.

    My point of view ( and my behaviour) is that when a company tells you to F OFF, by letting you go.  You ( I ) return the favour by telling them to F OFF by shunning them, no visits to their premises, make no phone calls, don't socialize, with former staff and management, certainly don't discuss them openly on social media or write reviews.

  • There is no need to be rude to me. I can read what you write on here. I can see it. Who cares if you don't understand me. Your not supposed to. Get over it. If you have a problem say it to me.

  • I have not been rude until now.

    Your problem is that you live in some kind of sick decadent society without even realising it.

    If I was your manager I would have fired you as well.

    Have a nice day. 

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  • No that's you who does. Your talking about yourself. That doesn't even make any sense. I didn't even have a manager at all. I am not a boy. I wasn't even on social media. Your all what you say to me. Your talking about yourself the entire time.

  • You don't know what I realize and what I don't only you do. 

  • I love it that you ^ my posts.

  • @robert123 I think there's more problems here. I may write a post on the horrors of American society and how severely abusive it is to AS individuals. Help is not available to the poor. Add how uneducated so many in that society are, worse still instead of society exemplifying and idolising a better intellect it actually idolises and mimics a lower standard of intelligence - maybe it's been that way for hundreds of years out of a fear of uprisings or for whatever reason. This society is not suitable for AS humans and doubles down on them to make them worse. There's no escaping becoming more closed minded unless you have the agency and wits and enough money to leave the US. 

  • Former Member Unfortunately - the humans on this site do not owe each other anything. You owe me nothing and I owe you nothing:)  We interact to help one another out of the kindness of our selves. And every time I write on this message board, I'm taking a financial hit. I'm not making money doing this, I'm taking time out of other things I could be doing to offer a kind of support. 

    I'm not sure if you come from an abusive home. But your growth has been stopped. It has been stunted. If you're in your 20s or 30s, you should have been taught a better command of how to structure a sentence. Because on this forum, all we have to understand who you are, is How you write a sentence. How you respond, the words you carefully choose or recklessly use.

    And many Autistic individuals who have Trauma and Abuse will structure sentences and recklessly use words like a teenager or worse - like an elementary school child. This is NOT your fault. But Coming to terms with how you have not been given proper skills in life is now your responsibly as an adult to Fix - I am so sorry. Most of us on this forum have had to come to terms with this. It is heartbreaking.

    I went though a terrible time from 20 something to mid 30's Fixing these things. And I had to start by asking myself what I don't know. Here is the secret: The moment you feel 'offended' or 'embarrassed' - ask yourself why. Buried underneath these particular uncomfortable feelings is a key to psychological freedom.  

    You may have suffered abuse and you probably have a great deal of trauma. Is there a way for you to seek help working through your education which has been overlooked with a therapist or is it too expensive?

  • I'm developmentally delayed and im dyslexic. I'm not telling you much. I don't trust you. I don't owe you an explanation. I am not abused either. I don't know what made you suspect abuse. I never indicated anything like that. I'm not behaving like an abused victim. I was never  bullied once in my life so I'm not sure where you got that from. 

  • Bullied is Abuse. 

    I have no desire to add more frustration

    if it helps you,

    1. print out your post and it’s thread. 

    2. Bring them to someone you trust- a therapist maybe. 
    3. Ask for help decoding who is trying to help and what is hurtful. 
    4. Ask for help understanding what you said that created the response which others have given you. 

    good luck. 

  • I didn't. You troll my posts remember. Why would I like your posts? That doesn't make any sense.

  • I wasn't bullied. I am not sure where you got that from. Why are you making things up about me?

  • I didn't ask anyone for anything. Your so full of yourself. I didn't expect anyone to owe me anything and you people are so wrapped up in your egos. It's pathetic.