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Anyone else with Autism, ADHD or both gotten into full time employment & got their life together at age 25 ?

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Anyone else with Autism, ADHD or both gotten into full time employment & got their life together at age 25 ? I've had enough of these fake organisation that keep failing me or forcing me into work in some really unsuitable work environments or with extremely shady employers. So far I've done so much work experience, leisure & online learning and nothing has given me a little bit of direction. I wanted to go back to college but they do not do digital infrastructure or digital development for those over the age of 23. 

I've tried an apprenticeship which ended early because of the training provider or school going bankrupt, it wasn't something I was interested in anyway but i was willing to give it a chance and complete them, they where in horticulture and retail. Looking back they where probably a waste of time as because they where in dead end entry level subjects. 

I just want some direction or at least a fresh start in a job in a clean, well ventilated environment with routine hours but i keep being harassed into livestock, meat processing and elderly care assistant roles and the only reason i didn't stay at these jobs is because harassment and bullying by the staff was ruthless and became violently physical and dangerous.          

  • in reply to Plastic

    Old-fashioned is best, in my opinion.

    At 25, my life came crashing down on me. However, given time, I learned to help myself; and my Gamer Brother.

  • I'm an old fart so things were different back in the stone age.    I was working Saturdays and holidays from 14 in the local Wimpy Bar and paying my way.  I grew up on a council estate so there was zero spare money - my parents couldn't afford for me to do uni on their dime.   

    I was into electronics and good at it so I applied to a big electronics company and got on their apprenticeship program where, in connection with the local uni, they would pay all my educational expenses while i worked and earned money - win-win - but funding was only forthcoming on successful completion of every stage - huge pressure.

    I was really hard - lots of studying around all the work but I succeeded and got qualified so stayed on a bit longer while sorting my life out working for the company in Europe managing contractors installing advanced satellite ground stations for ESA.

    I got fed up with all the travelling and living out of a suitcase so changed to a higher-paying job in another company managing the production of scientific instruments - and then used the extra money to get on the housing market - and was married the year after - I'd just turned 24.    I'd known my wife since 11 and we'd been going out since we were 16.  

    I'm still friendly with a couple of workmates from my apprenticeship (I go flying with them) and the old training manager who gave me my break - I owe him everything for his faith in my capabilities.    I'm also still friends with the European CEO of my last company.

    I've gone on to do unbelievable things since as a chartered engineer and I retired a few years ago before 50.   

    I made in into my 40s before I was diagnosed as Aspie.

  • I was in full time work but got made redundant due to the pandemic, this was in August last year and trying to find work again is difficult because all the jobs in my area are jobs I'm not suited for plus I'm a full time carer for my mum. 

    Though to be fair I've been in and out of work for nearly ten years at this point.  I tried to get into apprenticeships for IT years ago but at the time they were only for 16-18 year olds (I left college at 19), and ones for my age didn't exist at all. 

  • sorry your apprenticeship went belly up,,, that must have been a gutting experience.

    i have autism and ADHD and dyslexia.  i have moved between many jobs.  tried to stay in science but couldnt ( no jobs in area and/or out competed ). Ended up in IT. Been there ever since. At 25 I was pretty crazy, i was into motorcycles, trouble of all sorts, sex, drink that was it. So u are probably better than me.

    pick up a martial art it helps build confidence against physical attack. I did Judo which i used in real life to great effect. Boxing is the ultimate one but keep the sparring to a minimum,,,  the head injuries are very real.

  • At the age of 25 I applied for and was offered a job that I then stayed in for 34 years. I gained modest promotions, the job changed and even my employer changed around me, but I remained a fixture. I did achieve good academic results at school, though I loathed and hated school, and went on to university. Despite my limitations, due I now know to autism, I had good academic ability and that helped me in my work - scientific research. I was eventually elected a member of a learned society that Sir David Attenborough also belongs to.