Travel

I also can not relax at home, and I always need adventures because that's what I call absolute relaxation. Especially since I have a business and am always busy with thousands of important things, I always can't wait to have a vacation and forget all my problems and worries because life as an entrepreneur is not as easy as it seems. The other day I was looking for the best hotels near me, and I chose a dream house and can't wait to go there with my friends. The adventure begins in October.

Well, if you have the IBD, I would suggest you get the exact location of your destination point and search for a good timeshare proposition in that area so that you will get a good amount of money from the bank as your travel payings also at the same time you will have the same place to come every time, so you don't need to panic or deal with other IBD symptoms. I think this will be much better than going to different motels each time you visit London. If you search for a good timeshare site, let me know I will send a link to sites I usually use.

Best way is to try it out, get the train to London and then out of London to another location, then back home, and see how that goes.

Mindfulness is useful, but so is self-coaching - telling yourself along the way that you can cope, and that if anything goes wrong you will cope.  When the doubts creep in, that's when you reassure yourself.  At any point you know you can get off and go back the other way, its London so plenty of trains in and out, and also buses and taxis if you need them.

With autism its important to find out what is realistic for you, and with IBD I imagine, rather than going by worries or fears of what may happen.  You can also gain confidence from pushing yourself when you might want to avoid difficult things.

I am going on a cruise from Rome as well at the beginning of may, and I was also wondering how much time I would need to get to downtown. Someone told me that I would have to go at least two hours, which made me nervous. However, after checking the itinerary I understood that it can be done much faster, if you just get a bus till the city entrace, and then you go by feet. That only takes around one hour and a half. I have visited Rome already, but I never took a cruise there https://www.freetour.com/rome . I have to admit, they have some fantastic tours. If you are also willing to take one, you can click here and check some of the best tours in Rome.

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Thata a nice idea, thanks for sharing. I think my main issue is noise. Once with colleagues I find it impossible to relax, on my own I can put on some headphones and cope much better with it by escaping.

So think I need to find some more escapes

I always used it as admin time - quiet house, no distractions - clear evenings.

So irritating the time needed for gravity to work, comes at the cost of precious sleep, huh?

I don't like crowded buses and tubes either...but a further thought...I used to go through Italian vocab or crochet socks (the whole family got socks and I have draws stuffed full of my original designs, lol) on the bus to cope. I'm not suggesting you try those things, but do you have a calming special interest which is portable enough for public transport?

Thats a swell idea. If I am able to sleep. Anxiety tends to give me serious insomnia, I've done 12 hour shifts on 30 mins sleep before, faaaaar from ideal.

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Good luck!

You can always get up early for the first few days to stabilise your body to get confidence for the day.

On days when I  need my body to function I'm up at 5am to have food and pills and let gravity do its thing. 

Thanks guys. I've been a little better with WFH this year, but any stress sets me off. But the thing is, I'm going for my all time dream job that I've worked for 15 years to get into, it's an amazing opportunity, and the job I'm in is very stressful and makes me depressed. So we've discussed it and I'm gonna give it my best shot, and hope I can handle it (I think I know how it will end, but I owe it to life to give it a go at least).

Just wish my fear of transport would lessen a bit before I start. It's tough feeling afraid on the move

Yeah! I want one of those, lol

He has a screw-in plug with a 9/16" fitting.

Fight/flight, methane and gravity, lol. Not a good mix for the tube. I've spent my life waiting for a Star Trek matter transporter to solve the issue.

Bet Data never has this problem.

Gravity is also a bummer - especially in the mornings - after you've been horizontal for 8 hours, everything inside has moved around and found it's comfortable position

And then you suddenly become vertical so everything redistributes and gravity squashes all your internal organs downwards - and for good measure you shove 1/2 pint of coffee and a McBreakfast down on top to act as a press.

And then the fresh sugars get fermenting with any yeasts to add 1000psi CO2 & Methane to the problem of what just moved across the transverse colon into the vertical drop on the descending colon - clench........  

The start of a bad day...... 

Yeah, it's hard wired into the fight or flight response, unfortunately. The calmer you can stay, the less of an issue... sucks, indeed.

It's the main reason I couldn't change job when I became ill - there's no way I could have survived 2 years without sickness to have been accepted by the new company.

I'm one of those people who couldn't tolerate the usual 5-ASA meds so I was continually flaring or on massive doses of steroids.

I have lots of food triggers - chocolate seems to be the worst.      Liver & Bacon seems to really help stabilise me - probably the high Iron content.

Been doing long commutes with IBS for decades. It effects me first thing in the morning. It takes about and hour and a half to calm down - not ideal when there's a bus to catch. I get up early and take imodiem and don't eat until I reach the other end of the journey.  Mercifully, even before the pandemic, these days though, I was working from home sometimes. I'd get a lie in and a more comfortable day then.

Take care of your energy levels.

Cheers Plastic (wish I knew your name). I worked across London for 10 years but yeah that's all sage advice.

It's diet that's gonna be hard, I have lots of food triggers. Also, a side note with a new job, presentations... that moment all attention is on me, my IBD will flare and I need to leave. Seems to be some kind of a startle response, like horses do. It sucks