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Are people bored?

mouse2

I'm at super high anxiety form other people right now. We've had antisocial behaviour from people or peoples children who dont even live in our road. Current affairs and everything going on I'm thinking suicidal thoughts and cant take any more. 

I use my social media to connect with friends but deleted toxic people who were just there for a nose through my profile really. Deleted no explanation. 

There's a local thug who I've had brief interactions with in the past unfortunatly due to my trusting nature. Her friends are bullies also and I try to avoid them after they hammered on my door one time as their kids were rude to my child and I simply said go away from my house. It ended with me yelling at them (shaking but I did it)

Their the kind of people who have been a gang since school and theyve never worked, just had kids and kept their same high school bullying attitude. Anyway this womans tried adding me on Facebook I have no idea why, no interest in adding her but it's thrown up yet more anxiety. I want to know what she is upto but I have so much anxiety I cant handle it right now.

Advice, do I ask what she wants? PS I also deleted her new fella a few weeks ago as he's not a friend tbh and hes not so nice to me when I did see him. He would make me feel bad about myself by saying things like 'dont let people say your ugly' and i'd only said hello as I had to so it would come out of the blue!

He is rumoured to be on meth so that explains his other strange behaviour. Another reason I deleted him. I'm trying to heal as I've been feeling suicidal I cant cope too well and I'm trying so darn hard to manage. 

Help please, my minds so messed up atm but I will also worry what she is upto. Are people that bored their creating drama's?

  • in reply to MDC

    Anyone try small talk on me and I just talk about how they are imprisoned in their own minds. Victims of their pitiful lives always chasing the ever retreating mirage until death. 

    Its The Great Deception - they love it! Not Rofl

  • Advice - delete Facebook. 

    It’s the main source of your troubles whether you know it or believe it or not. 

  • in reply to mouse2

    War and Peace, what kind of title is that for a book? So all-encompassing... Did he also have other books, like 'Earth and Ocean', or 'Day and Night', or 'Summer and Winter'... just trying to be funny. 

    I do hope the neighbour that tried chatting about fences was given a proper feedback... how about: 'Ah, fences, what a great thing they are, I wish mine was just a bit higher so nosy neighbours  would not be able to engage in smalltalk with me... '...

    At 20.00 the neighbours come out and do engage in smalltalk, the children are then running around, if one of these 10 people gets covid-19, they all do and probable the older ones (80-plussers) will be in dire need of ventilators...

    We tend to call that time of the day (20:00 => 21:00) The purge... oh, look, the neighbours are having 'the purge' again... I feel like going to ask them: is corona having dinner right now, so it's not out to infect y'all...

  • in reply to MDC

    Thanks. I dont want more tablets that's all the drs do. Counsellors never understood how I thought so I gave up after starting a new with the 6th person.

    My husbands off work still. Our kids at home. I go to the garden to read, I'm reading war and peace at the moment. Yet I go in the garden and lay so no one can see me unless they really try to peer in. Today an old guy who i avoid as he has a weird thing for me and a history in the neighbourhood tried talking to me....i went in. Then another neighbour i like tried chatting about fences. Then another neighbour chatted about weeds and the council. I just want peace. I tried ignoring people and wearing headphones but social Distancing missed our town as they simply come close!

  • You have the right not to accept a request for friendship on Facebook. You decide. 

    Some people are so pathologically social that they would send it automatically out to all friends of friends...

    I hope you can still find a quite spot in your home. I also don't like it much when there's too much noise in the gardens of the neighbours, but then I also don't mind staying in. 

    My brother in law had this weird way of talking to me... 'I spoke to a guy, he's at least as clever as you are'... I broke contact with him, so happy about that.

    Easier said than done, if you're having these thoughts of not wanting to live, better go see a doctor. I did, I talk to a psychologist once a week and I take anti-depressants. And I'm doing rather fine. If I look back now at things that used to get under my nerves then, and I laugh at now, it's amazing. 

    If your mind is chaotic, don't try to take on more than you can handle. Make sure the important stuff is controlled. 

  • in reply to mouse2

    (My road is a dead end and these kids live no where near ys)

  • Thank you all for the replies. I want to know what she wants out of interest but my anxiety is so high I'm constantly feeling like hurting myself and trying to regulate that. Her kids keep going past my garden since this request, which leads to a dead end so I dont understand why. I'm completely ignoring them and we have cctv but their the kind of kids that cause vandalism etc.

    I've ignored her request so it's not in my inbox anymore. Hopefully theyll get bored

  • Can you talk to someone close to you who knows more of the situation?

    Yes, there are people who create dramas just for the sake of it. Sometimes they may instead have good reasons for something (say a friend request) but they're not very good at expressing it. If you can't handle it right now, then you can't.

    What's more important is your healing, and I hope you're getting good help with that. Good luck.