Are you good at identifying emotions/feelings within yourself?

I don’t wear noise cancelling headphones because of someone tried to burgle my house I want to be able to hear him and surprise attack him so he gets caught and faces justice.

but I agree if there’s not much sound I can hear for miles whether it’s a saw down the road or a quiet conversation downstairs i will shout downstairs and correct someone and they’ll be surprised with my ability to hear them.

Though the hearing can backfire, when there’s multiple sounds I won’t be able to hear anyone because my ears are being pounded by loud noises. 

When I was a small kid I used to play on the computer and if the computer was on full sound it would hurt my ears so much I would end up having a meltdown.

Yes a lot of sounds annoy me :p I think I can hear a lot more sounds than most people too. I'm always asking, "what's that beeping?" Everything seems to beep now, like fire alarms telling you the battery is low, but no one seems to hear them! Or I'll be sitting in my house and I'll hear the guy at the end of the road using a circular saw in his garden. Argh! I think it's intermittent sounds that are the worst. My noise cancelling headphones do help a lot but unfortunately I can't wear them all the time. 

And he eats mash potato, I can’t eat mash potatoes and never will.

i don’t get the crunchy sounds that bad but what does relate to that is, if anyone is making a sound or noise or action I find annoying I will go mad and go on about how it’s distracting. I’ll make them stop but then a few minutes later I’ll do a similar sound on repeat or stun like clapping my knees together and they’ll point it out and call me a hypocrite.

but anyway crunching can sometimes come under that area of annoying movements and sounds.

It’s weird because I like beans but I hate gravy and watching it mix with other foods of different textures will just make me question why anyone would like it. 

Ill have ketchup in a burger but then frown upon coleslaw or onions in someone else’s  burger. I hate apple pie, that apple is just not from earth. 

Coleslaw is definitely my arch enemy though.

I don't have an issue with "texture" but I really really struggle with the sound of eating. To the point where I won't eat "loud" foods because I dislike it so much. Chewing / slurping / crunching etc .. it's making me cringe just thinking about it now. I do have a friend however who only 3 meals: frosties for breakfast, cheese sandwich for lunch, sausages and mashed potato (no gravy, no peas or anything like that) for tea. Those are the only things he will eat (he isn't ASD though). I attempt to get him to eat a bit more of a broader range but he says the textures are all wrong. 

My daughter has massive issues with this nearly all food with sauce is a no go! Apart from cheese pasta which she would eat daily if she could 

I know This has no relation to the topic at all but does anyone else have a massive problem with food textures. I hate liquify or runny food like coleslaw, just looking at it makes me feel ill. I would rather look at a dead body than some of the food in the world.

It makes it really difficult for dinners and restaurants if I ever go with anyone. The taste often isn’t the matter it’s the texture, like bananas, I won’t eat bananas because of the texture but I do like the taste so I’ll have banana flavoured stuff like milkshakes or muffins.

Does this occur in anyone else’s lives.

I know This has no relation to the topic at all but does anyone else have a massive problem with food textures. I hate liquify or runny food like coleslaw, just looking at it makes me feel ill. I would rather look at a dead body than some of the food in the world.

It makes it really difficult for dinners and restaurants if I ever go with anyone. The taste often isn’t the matter it’s the texture, like bananas, I won’t eat bananas because of the texture but I do like the taste so I’ll have banana flavoured stuff like milkshakes or muffins.

Does this occur in anyone else’s lives.

I feel "neutral" most of the time. The only times I really "feel" anything is when I listen to music and I get hit with a lot of feelings all at once and also lots of memories. I have to be quite careful what I listen to. I have no idea how you separate out what "feeling" is related to what emotion, as they all sort of feel the same? I guess I'm still working through this. Up until recently I've just guessed at what I should be feeling when someone asks. What I mean is, if someone says "aren't you happy?" I have to think through the situation and decide if the person asking wants me to say yes or no. Sort of an analytical process of working out what the right answer is rather than genuinely feeling an emotion. (I assumed this is what other people do but I guess it's not)

That’s interesting. Suffering from psychosis is A LOT more common among people with ASD. Do you mind me asking your MH diagnosis?

That feelings wheel has led to some interesting thoughts and conversations in the last year or two. I was busy telling a therapist once that I could  identify maybe 8 primary visceral emotions (I was listing more "primary" ones than a typical feelings wheel) and 22 secondary ones, and find it hard to discriminate between the tertiatry ones, and the therapist said something like "yeah most people struggle to identify more than a handful". So this left me thinking where the wheel comes from? It's like the wheel is fibbing to us about how many feelings you should be able to identify :-)

Anyway, I made my own :-)

I struggle with differentiating between negative emotions in others - - eg I might recognise someone looks "off", but can't work out if it is angry/sad/ill/frustrated/annoyed etc.

Within myself I struggle to recognise a lot of emotions, or rather to realise I am having them when I am having them. My biggest "OMG" moment of realisation came in a conversation with my boss (this was about 18 months ago in the very early days of me thinking I had AS) when he just casually said something like "oh yeah I can tell the anxiety you have about..." and in my head  I was going absolutely bananas at him "what, I'm not ****ing anxious, what the ...you saying that for mate" .. Didn't say anything to him. About a week later, it suddenly dawned on me that he was absolutely right, and there were several work situations I clearly had been anxious about. He had obviously noticed this, being NT, but I did not have a clue! It was a real "wow" moment in my head, and led to me then discovering about alexythymia.

I've posted this image before on another thread, but I have found it helps since I realised I had alexythymia.

It does thanks for trying.

Liverpool has to do anything possible to try to win the game and it shows that little things can do a lot 

[Derealization -A distortion in how the external world is perceived.

"The world looks two-dimensional and flat. Objects seem to have no existence separate from my thoughts, they are illusions and are pressed up against my eyes. If I reach out to touch something it seems farther away or closer than it should be.

http://www.dreamchild.net/DPDR/dpdr.html#dr

I can't add quote tags for some reason.

I was thinking that might relate to 

Everything would go out of proportion and people’s faces and sounds would feel far away but things really close would feel even closer.

Alexithymia is really weird because I used to be really reactive to people touching me or just being a *** and I would end up in many fights at school but still feel no anger. 

Its difficult because nobody would look at me and think I was autistic because many of today’s generation seek for looks and I’m not what people stereotype autistic people as.

I am relatively smart and people think autistics are stupid. They think they’re small, thin, ill looking people where I’m the total opposite I’m not small, I’m quite strong and other than scars and bruises rather healthy.

Ive found that quite often I cry. Since I've self identified as being AS and read about it,  I think this is when I'm confused or not sure what my actual emotion is. I just know it's bad so I cry.

Also I've been signed off work with anxiety. This from a cumulative effect over the past 6 years, in particular past 12 months. I think anyone else would've sought help before now, but I don't think I realised how bad I actually was. I still don't think I do.

Someone mentioned about delayed emotion and I can recognise this. I think at the time I can be quite impartial about something and it's only later when I'm reflecting the true reality hits me. I yhink this is why I had problrms with family bereavement last year and delayed grief.

I've had many a "cheer up it'll never happen" comment in my life. When I've felt perfectly content thank you very much! 

I also can identify with the female AS notion of appeasement.  I have gone along with a few things in my life because it's been "the right thing to do" when in actual fact I didn't want to do it but didn't even realise this in myself. It was only when I was in my very late 20s I thought, actually,  I CAN say if I'm not happy with something (even then I feel sometimes I'm not taken seriously). 

I think I do find it difficult to explain feelings sometimes. I did the alexithymia test and came out positive but I don't know how accurate it is and I also struggled to answer some if the questions.  If you haven't been aware of something in your life hiw are you supposed to know about it?

Learning about AS has made me evaluate and recognise my feelings more though. 

Also very often I will yhink something but it doesn't occur to me to actually say it.

What am I looking at and why?

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Yeh 

i don’t understand 3 at all it can kind of happen at any time.

where has Maz2 gone?