Published on 12, July, 2020
Usually I would discuss these types of issues with my mentor or therapist, but unfortunate timing means I face the difficult task of my first ever informal disclosure without either of their assistance, so I was hoping some people here would give me some advice and feedback.
I am a final year university student and for the next semester I have to work full time in the lab. I begin on Monday. I have never disclosed my diagnosis before. Last summer I worked in a different lab and it was hell. I was treated like a child and it drove me to the point of being suicidal. I don't want this semester to go the same way, as I have lost my support network and if I end up in the same place as in the summer, I will not survive. I feel like disclosing is the only hope I have of making the work environment more tolerable and at least giving me something to report if I am mistreated by those who supervise me.
I have been trying to plan out what to say. I plan to disclose to whoever is first training me, just before they begin to teach me. Here's what I've come up with:
My main concerns are 1) chickening out or forgetting, hence having to act neurotypical for the duration of my placement, or 2) starting talking about it and tearing up, because I'm in a bad place mentally and talking about things like this can make me irrationally emotional.
Can any one give me any advice or share any of their own experiences?
Hi aralez,
Not sure about uni, but I always disclose at things like job interviews. So far, it's not held me back.
The university should have a student welfare officer you could talk to. Many universities now also have mentors/advocates for autistic people. It's an equality issue, and you should not be discriminated against. If you had a physical disability, you would be accommodated.
Try the welfare officer first. Personally, I would always encourage disclosure.
All the best,
Tom
Thanks for the link and support! I do have a mentor in the disability service, but we as students have to take on disclosure ourselves to prepare us for the work of work, which makes sense I suppose. Usually they would offer advice, but the offices don't open until Monday, at which point it's too late for me I'm afraid. Partly my fault, I should have got help before the Christmas break but I was too busy studying for exams.
I agree with Tom - get the uni support person to sort it all out for you - they have much more experience with dealing with this sort of thing.
PS You might also find it helpful to check out the resources on the site if you haven't already:
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