Sibling support - advice please

Hi all,

Please can anyone advise on best way to support siblings or please share experiences so I don’t feel it’s just our family in this situation.

One of my children, age 12, is on the way to a diagnosis of ASD.  Aspergers, although I know there is no separate diagnosis for that now.  She’s in mainstream school, doing okay with support. 

At home all the behaviours come out.  I do my best to support my other children, managing her meltdowns, keeping them out of the way, making sure we alL have activities planned together or separately.  However they are struggling dealing with her and the impact she has on the whole family.  Her elder sister is crying  a lot because of her.

All constructive advice would be welcome please .

thanks’