Hi all, I have a question to any parents out there with a teenage autistic child. My 15 year old daughter is currently in the transition from mainstream to a specialise school due to her social emotional needs. She leaves next Friday but for the last few weeks every other day she will refuse to go into school for no apparent reason.
I understand she is anxious about leaving and starting a new school but I have to question is she being a typical teenager who doesn't want to go? I have taken away her phone and stopped her from going to after school club as a punishment for not going to school but does this make a difference? Should I even be punishing her or just accept that her refusal of school goes with the territory.
Would love to hear your opinions on this as the school aren't interested now because she is leaving shortly anyway
I don't think there's any need to be horrible. Parenting is an extremely difficult thing. She has come here asking for advice because she cares about her daughter. Not to be made to feel rubbish. You can give your advice without being rude about it!
Binary, thank you! I haven't come on here to upset anyone .Unfortunately I don't know many people who have autistic children let alone a teenager with autism.
I do not have a lot of family support so I never know if I'm doing the right or wrong thing. Certainly taking away her phone isn't something I am proud of but I do have another child who although she totally understand what her sister has to go through day in day out I also have to make these rules apply to both children, that being said I do make a lot of allowances for my daughter because I am aware she is finding this too much ... god even I'm struggling! But that doesn't make me a bad parent.
I just want to do right by my daughter x
Are you an only child? As well as being autistic, I am one of 4 kids and the only one that's autistic. I have two children - one is autistic and the other isn't. I can say when I was a kid I wanted to be treated the same as my siblings. And so do my kids. That includes punishments.
loulabelle42 said:I haven't come on here to upset anyone
No-one is impling you have. You asked a perfectly reasonable question, politely. If anyone chose to get upset that's up to them.
loulabelle42 said:But that doesn't make me a bad parent.
You aren't. You took time to come here to try and make things easier on your daughter.
ElenaB said:I've done all the Online Tests and passed with 'flying colours'.
You either have it, or you don't. It's not like you are trying to get into Top Gun.
Oh crap. I thought this was the Top Gun test? I must have taken a wrong turn at the assessment center again
We still have volleyball here, might as well play a game!