Published on 12, July, 2020
Good evening
I'm new on here so sorry for long post.
I have a 12-year-old who was diagnosed with Aspergers last year.
He's not a ’naughty’ child but naturally pushes boundaries and continuously annoys his younger brother who is 9. They are two very different kids in so many ways.
However, my son is not able to see nor understand he has ever done anything wrong. There is always an excuse or its someone else fault when it's clearly, his behaviour that's caused the issue, or it's his attitude.
His stepdad has ran out of tolerance and patience, and his brother is fed up too. I try my hardest to undersand, make allowances and explain everything to him over and over.....but I'm frustrated too, and it feels endless with little no support.
Any suggestions, please. It's really frustrating me, I'm aware I need to try something different but not sure how.
Thanks for reading
Hi NAS36546,
Sorry to hear that you're having a difficult time with your son. We have some pages here on the NAS site with advice about how to deal with challenging behaviour in children. The 'top tips' page here - http://www.autism.org.uk/about/behaviour/guidelines.aspx - is for general advice about ways to try and minimise difficult behaviour and identify what might be causing it. There's also the 'challenging behaviour' page - http://www.autism.org.uk/about/behaviour/challenging-behaviour.aspx - which has advice on more serious topics like physical violence or self-injury.
Hope that some of this is useful to you,
Best wishes,
Ross - mod