Its getting worse. Today hes smashed in the wall by throwing a huge computer chair at it. Hes smashed the wardrobe door off the hinges.
We've tried and tried, but any attempt to even speak to him results in literally going from 0 - 1000 in a second. Hes shouts screams and punches the walls.
Today he went for my wife. Next step is going to be the police. We've been here before a month or so ago - took him to A&E out of desperation - they did nothing. All the useless tossers at CAMHS have done is tell us its bad parenting and to ring the police.
Hes 14 a big lad. As I've said before, hes got OCD and possible Aspergers. We've tried it all but he just does what he wants. Hes told his mother he wishes she were dead quite a few times. Last week he told me he was going to ring social services and tell them I was hitting him so I'd get arrested. I just just see it all heading down the slope into oblivion at the moment and he doesnt see it, doesnt care, or doesnt register.
I can't go near him at the moment but hes just a danger at the moment at times - We're so on our own because there is no-one to help!
We have been there with my 16 year old. All CAMHS told us to do was phone the police but in the end there was nothing they could do....they couldn't take him to A&E because he was in his home. If he had been out in a public space they would have. In the end after having him home full time for 9 months and I got attacked twice in a space of 24 hours,we had to put him in voluntary care, still not the ideal place but we are waiting for him to get a residential placement. Hardest thing to have done.
Oh jeez thats awful. Thanks for replying. Thats the way hes heading at the moment I'm afraid. He just does not seem to care though and is convinced its all us.
I just want to get help for him before it gets this far.
Must admit I am tempted to drop him off at A&E and let them deal with it. Not fair I know but as you said, they wont do a thing.
CAMHS are bloody awful here......and tbh social worker is totally out of his depth. But I do think the first port of call is to go to social services direct & your G.P...or have you done that?
I guess you tried it all with him. With my son he really does not seem to give a monkeys. I know he has mental health issues but he just does not see whats coming at all and seems determined to dig his heels in and act how he wants regardless of the circumstances.
Im really hoping I can get through to him. He needs possibly a bit of a shock to wake him up a bit. Now that would be good - a bootcamp weekend or something.
I love him to bits as I'm sure yo do with your son but its got to end somewhere.
Not in SE Wales are you? :-(
GP, paid counselling, paid psychiatrist, camhs referral. We havent involved social yet because I am a bit wary of them makijng things worse.
I do love him to bits & he is an amazing lad when he is stable. He only got a diagnosis of Conduct disorder last year. He has no concept of consequences to actions and he has no concept of putting himself at risk aswell as others. I thought the police being around would be enough but it didn't work, when the police took him they had him in the custody suite but CAMHS wouldn't come out to assess so he ended up spending the night in the cells because he fell asleep. TBH hasn't made a difference he has attacked most of the carers in the home....but it is a case when he is in that rage there is no reasoning etc & afterwards he's like what happened, I'm sorry till the next 1.
Wow. EXACTLY like my son. Seems to have no idea at all. Was the nicest kid you couild have and can be a really nice kid. Same here its sorry sorry sorry then same thing again. When hes off its like its a different person.
I know it's hard but need to keep on at CAMHS......and need to get the GP on board. He got diagnosed when he was 4 with autism. I moved away then came back in 2009....his violence was escalating & I was going to the Drs every week saying I wasn't coping, look at bruises etc. Finally after 6 months of letter back & for from GP to CAMHS they finally saw him & medicated him there & then. But something has to give before he seriously hurts you. Hope you do get some answers soon.
No, Midlands but am from SW Wales originally
GP is useless too - even forgot to send camhs referral off first time. As if it wasnt urgent!