4 year old hates trousers'

my son hates wearing trousers finding it ery difficult at the moment especially with the cold winter months he always wants to wear shorts I find I'm always saying to him if he wears them I will reward him running out of things to say , he gets so frustrated and angey most of the time he wants to be naked.

any other tips strategies.

Thanks Lu

  • Hi Lu,

    I work with a young autistic lad like it.  He's been like it from childhood (he's now 21).  He will only wear t-shirts, jogging bottoms and Crocs or flip-flops.  He refuses to wear socks and any form of underwear.  When going out, he'll put a coat on - but that's as much extra clothing as he'll take.  He's highly autistic and quite challenging.  It seems it's clearly a sensory issue with him - though he doesn't seem to have any aversion to any particular fabrics or textures.  It's just how he is.

    Have you spoken to anyone else about it yet?  Can your GP refer you to any services?

    Take a look here - there might be something to help...


    Ideally, it would help if he could perhaps see a behaviour therapist.  Depends what the resources are in your area.

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  • I do experience some sensory issues myself as I notice a lot of similarities , as I don't like touching food , or eating hot food either .

    Autism is inherited, so maybe it comes down your side.  It might be worth investigating by taking the test. Depends on whether you feel you exhibit any other traits.

    Is he going to a mainstream school?  Is he quite high-functioning in other ways?  The chap I'm talking about is highly ritualised in his behaviour patterns.  He can read and write and is able to use a computer, and understand PECS.  But in other ways, he needs 1-1 attention.  He cannot go out alone and is unable to do things like prepare meals.  He objects strongly to whistling or singing by other people, and also has Pica - so we need to be very careful about leaving small inedible objects around.

    Sounds like you've got a few things in place.  The waits can be frustratingly slow!  If you're interested, there's a good book available - written by a mother bringing up a highly autistic son. 'Making Peace With Autism' by Susan Senator.  It says a lot about the rewards as well as the tribulations.  It might offer some comfort, anyway.  It's expensive - but there are used copies for a few pennies on Amazon Marketplace.