Autism and depression

Hi, feeling really hopeless just left the hospital where my 15 years old autistic daughter is detained under section. I just need someone to give me a little hope and tell me if she is going to stop trying to end her life. I fear that one day she will succeed. I listen to the doctor and it doesn't feel me with confidence as they don't seem to know what to do and keep trying different things that don't work. Why does she get so depressed? Sorry about this whimpering but most of the people I know just look at me with puppy eyes and want to hug me but they don't really understand. I know you guys do.

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  • As everyone has said here, being a teenager with ASD is a very confusing and painful time.  I have been sectioned twice in my life, my first time I had just turned 19 and was despairing at the world.  My best advice I can give you is be supportive, understanding and don't hold judgement.  This may sound a silly statement as you are her parent so naturally want to do the best for her, but I found the communication difficulties I had with my parents were only compounded during my time in hospital, which made me feel more isolated.  Naturally you are better informed of your daughter's need through having a diagnosis where as I didn't have one at the time. 

    I found that I lost my voice (was non-verbal at times)and never felt like I was being listened to when I was in hospital.  She may not feel comfortable explaining what she is battling with, but reassure her you are there to support her no matter what.  For me, knowing that you are not alone and someone is there to listen can make a world of difference and help to put things into perspective.  I found writing down my thoughts and responses to medical staff was the only way to communicate what I needed or what I was thinking.  Not sure if this would work for your daughter, but might be an option.

    The good news is as traumatic as teenage years are, the fact that there are so many of us here in our 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond demonstrates we find a way of getting through these bad stages in life.  I myself am going through a rough stage myself at the moment, but I am now better equipped and experienced to manage certain aspects myself, as well as spotting the signs earlier on when I need medical intervention.

    I hope your daughter recovers quickly and I hope the medical staff provide your daughter with what she needs to heal.

    The main thing to remember is you are not alone in this situation.  

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  • As everyone has said here, being a teenager with ASD is a very confusing and painful time.  I have been sectioned twice in my life, my first time I had just turned 19 and was despairing at the world.  My best advice I can give you is be supportive, understanding and don't hold judgement.  This may sound a silly statement as you are her parent so naturally want to do the best for her, but I found the communication difficulties I had with my parents were only compounded during my time in hospital, which made me feel more isolated.  Naturally you are better informed of your daughter's need through having a diagnosis where as I didn't have one at the time. 

    I found that I lost my voice (was non-verbal at times)and never felt like I was being listened to when I was in hospital.  She may not feel comfortable explaining what she is battling with, but reassure her you are there to support her no matter what.  For me, knowing that you are not alone and someone is there to listen can make a world of difference and help to put things into perspective.  I found writing down my thoughts and responses to medical staff was the only way to communicate what I needed or what I was thinking.  Not sure if this would work for your daughter, but might be an option.

    The good news is as traumatic as teenage years are, the fact that there are so many of us here in our 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond demonstrates we find a way of getting through these bad stages in life.  I myself am going through a rough stage myself at the moment, but I am now better equipped and experienced to manage certain aspects myself, as well as spotting the signs earlier on when I need medical intervention.

    I hope your daughter recovers quickly and I hope the medical staff provide your daughter with what she needs to heal.

    The main thing to remember is you are not alone in this situation.  

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