Computer and tablet addiction?

How do you know she’s wasting her life away? I’m not sure what you mean by that. I’m not a child but I have autism and I’m so glued to my phone that I’m getting pains etc in that arm, but it’s been the best thing ever for me. I’m so grateful to it. 

I got into using my phone and iPad when I was in severe burn out, I was barely leaving my bed, and I somehow discovered YouTube and games, and it changed my life. I’ve gone from being the life and soul of the party, to never wanting to leave my house, and I’ve never been happier in my life. 

I have learned so much about communicating, by getting on line and about myself, about other people and I have so much fun. I research people like Henry Ford, or whoever takes my interest, and I’m in heaven, for days. 

I even learned how to eat, by playing a fish game on my phone. I noticed that if I ate and drank water, I could go up the levels, and if I didn’t, I wouldn’t get past the current level. 

I’ve made some wonderful connections with people, through the comments section on YouTube, and it’s transformed my life. I learned how to be a great communicator and all of that, and all it did was burn me out and it never made me happy and it was so stressful. 

Now I’ve discovered my phone and iPad, it’s almost like, welcome to my world. This is what makes me happy, not being out socialising and doing the things most other people like to do. We’re all different, and this is what I like to do. I could go deep into why I like it, but does everybody have to explain and justify what they enjoy doing? 

If you think your daughter is wasting her life away, maybe you think I’m wasting mine away? I think my son and some other people think that about me. But they don’t realise, I’m working hard, so I can live like this. I will soon be working for myself, but as part of a group of other people all doing what I’m doing, so I’ve got the best of both worlds, I’m working according to my needs and still in a type of workplace, it’s just not a traditional one, which doesn’t work for me.

And when I’m not at work, I like to do what makes me happy, such as walking all day long beside a river, or staying all day in bed, with just my phone. I don’t think I’m wasting my life away, I think I make the most of it. It’s just that my way, doesn’t look like most people’s, because I’m not like most people in that way, I’m neurodiverse, and not nuerotypical, so my life isn’t going to look like most people’s, from the outside, but it’s the same on the inside. When I made my life look like other people’s, doing the things they did, although I did it, it made me feel so lost and empty inside. Now I live according to my needs etc and although people think I’m depressed or wasting my life away or something because I’m not doing what they’re doing, I’m actually having the time of my life. Online is one of the best ways in the world for me to communicate and have as my kind of companion and I know it’s not for everyone, but it doesn’t have to be, it only needs to be ok for me, and it is. Everyday I’m proud of myself, for not only getting through the years when I didn’t have a clue what I was doing as I was undiagnosed, but for how I’m learning, new things and ways of being, that makes life easier and more interesting for me and others are helping me and I’m helping them where as before, I thought I was all alone. Going on line and playing games and watching YouTube videos changed my life, for the better, so it’s hard for me to see it as s waste of time. As I’m coming out of my burn out I’ll spend less time on line and more time out walking etc but I’ll be working online, because that’s where I fit in best. But I’ve enjoyed every minute of my time discovering and enjoying YouTube. I don’t have a television, I’ve never watched television or films, apart from old black and white films, I don’t read much fiction, I read pretty serious stuff, so YouTube videos became my life for a while, I think they saved me from going insane as well.

So I guess that’s my answer. Is there anything that she likes to watch specifically that you could expand out, for example, if she liked games with trains, could you begin by going to see trains, do you see what I mean. My grandson likes an adventure game, so I turn all of our days out into an adventure, and even though I can see at times that he has moments that he’s thinking about his iPad, I distract him quickly and he’s ok because he knows as well, that as soon as we get back to the car, he gets the iPad and he can have it for the rest of the night. So he’s always really good when he’s with me and I like to give him some freedom of choice in it as well, and he especially likes parks, so I try to get us somewhere that has a park and he’ll play for hours then, and I get to just be. So that’s how I work it with my grandson. The rest of the family don’t do as well with him, but even when he cries before bed, I don’t mind that, because I still do it, even as an adult, I cry when I’m tired, and if left alone to cry, I’m good, so I just let him cry while the others try to get him to shut up in one way or another and they all seem to end up upset. I can’t understand why they just don’t let him cry. I burst out crying in the coffee shop yesterday as I was finding it so hard to do my work, but nobody acted as if it was a problem, so I don’t know why they all think his crying is a problem, it’s just our way of expressing ourselves at that time, it doesn’t mean we’re sad or need anything. 

Anyway, best of luck. I think girls can be trickier than boys, or at least that’s my experience and I had a son, so I have more experience with boys, if there’s a difference, I’m not sure, but he isn’t autistic either, mums of autistic kids deserve medals, I’m not sure I was cut out for that so you probably already know way more than me on how to get around things. Have you read about Temple Grandins story or her mum speaking? They might be worth checking out. 

How do you know she’s wasting her life away? I’m not sure what you mean by that. I’m not a child but I have autism and I’m so glued to my phone that I’m getting pains etc in that arm, but it’s been the best thing ever for me. I’m so grateful to it. 

I got into using my phone and iPad when I was in severe burn out, I was barely leaving my bed, and I somehow discovered YouTube and games, and it changed my life. I’ve gone from being the life and soul of the party, to never wanting to leave my house, and I’ve never been happier in my life. 

I have learned so much about communicating, by getting on line and about myself, about other people and I have so much fun. I research people like Henry Ford, or whoever takes my interest, and I’m in heaven, for days. 

I even learned how to eat, by playing a fish game on my phone. I noticed that if I ate and drank water, I could go up the levels, and if I didn’t, I wouldn’t get past the current level. 

I’ve made some wonderful connections with people, through the comments section on YouTube, and it’s transformed my life. I learned how to be a great communicator and all of that, and all it did was burn me out and it never made me happy and it was so stressful. 

Now I’ve discovered my phone and iPad, it’s almost like, welcome to my world. This is what makes me happy, not being out socialising and doing the things most other people like to do. We’re all different, and this is what I like to do. I could go deep into why I like it, but does everybody have to explain and justify what they enjoy doing? 

If you think your daughter is wasting her life away, maybe you think I’m wasting mine away? I think my son and some other people think that about me. But they don’t realise, I’m working hard, so I can live like this. I will soon be working for myself, but as part of a group of other people all doing what I’m doing, so I’ve got the best of both worlds, I’m working according to my needs and still in a type of workplace, it’s just not a traditional one, which doesn’t work for me.

And when I’m not at work, I like to do what makes me happy, such as walking all day long beside a river, or staying all day in bed, with just my phone. I don’t think I’m wasting my life away, I think I make the most of it. It’s just that my way, doesn’t look like most people’s, because I’m not like most people in that way, I’m neurodiverse, and not nuerotypical, so my life isn’t going to look like most people’s, from the outside, but it’s the same on the inside. When I made my life look like other people’s, doing the things they did, although I did it, it made me feel so lost and empty inside. Now I live according to my needs etc and although people think I’m depressed or wasting my life away or something because I’m not doing what they’re doing, I’m actually having the time of my life. Online is one of the best ways in the world for me to communicate and have as my kind of companion and I know it’s not for everyone, but it doesn’t have to be, it only needs to be ok for me, and it is. Everyday I’m proud of myself, for not only getting through the years when I didn’t have a clue what I was doing as I was undiagnosed, but for how I’m learning, new things and ways of being, that makes life easier and more interesting for me and others are helping me and I’m helping them where as before, I thought I was all alone. Going on line and playing games and watching YouTube videos changed my life, for the better, so it’s hard for me to see it as s waste of time. As I’m coming out of my burn out I’ll spend less time on line and more time out walking etc but I’ll be working online, because that’s where I fit in best. But I’ve enjoyed every minute of my time discovering and enjoying YouTube. I don’t have a television, I’ve never watched television or films, apart from old black and white films, I don’t read much fiction, I read pretty serious stuff, so YouTube videos became my life for a while, I think they saved me from going insane as well.

So I guess that’s my answer. Is there anything that she likes to watch specifically that you could expand out, for example, if she liked games with trains, could you begin by going to see trains, do you see what I mean. My grandson likes an adventure game, so I turn all of our days out into an adventure, and even though I can see at times that he has moments that he’s thinking about his iPad, I distract him quickly and he’s ok because he knows as well, that as soon as we get back to the car, he gets the iPad and he can have it for the rest of the night. So he’s always really good when he’s with me and I like to give him some freedom of choice in it as well, and he especially likes parks, so I try to get us somewhere that has a park and he’ll play for hours then, and I get to just be. So that’s how I work it with my grandson. The rest of the family don’t do as well with him, but even when he cries before bed, I don’t mind that, because I still do it, even as an adult, I cry when I’m tired, and if left alone to cry, I’m good, so I just let him cry while the others try to get him to shut up in one way or another and they all seem to end up upset. I can’t understand why they just don’t let him cry. I burst out crying in the coffee shop yesterday as I was finding it so hard to do my work, but nobody acted as if it was a problem, so I don’t know why they all think his crying is a problem, it’s just our way of expressing ourselves at that time, it doesn’t mean we’re sad or need anything. 

Anyway, best of luck. I think girls can be trickier than boys, or at least that’s my experience and I had a son, so I have more experience with boys, if there’s a difference, I’m not sure, but he isn’t autistic either, mums of autistic kids deserve medals, I’m not sure I was cut out for that so you probably already know way more than me on how to get around things. Have you read about Temple Grandins story or her mum speaking? They might be worth checking out.