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Endymion said:

I'm not sure what "a grift" means (showing my age again!) but I agree that it's a little concerning how some young people want to leap into dating. Personally I believe it's best to get to know ourselves before jumping into all of that but I suppose that's not a very popular view. It certainly isn't popular with one of my own daughters and that scares the hell out of me!

Thank you very much for this valuable advice!

I will try to keep this in mind!

We must be careful and I have to be careful.

Be careful California. There are people who will correspond and then ask for money with a hard luck story, saying something like they are in debt or had something stolen. Often they will use British names. The nearly incomprehensible English certainly makes me wonder about the whole thing.

Sometimes people feel desperate. I, sometimes, feel desperate but not all the time.

I think I feel desperate sometimes because I realize that I could be always without a partner.

That is not a nice thing and makes me desperate.

I have to say that I cannot tell the difference myself.

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I don’t fully understand how they work

I also do not know.

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I prefer to give the  benefit of doubt until proven otherwise.

This is also my approach.

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 I may end up looking foolish, I also have seen similar conversations by real people however. People who find it difficult to make conversation, those who are attempting to have a voice and start off very nervous until confidence is gained.

Completely agree with this. I find it really difficult to make conversations. Maybe it is easier here but face to face is really difficult for me.

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I have colleagues who chat endlessly to cirri! A lot of what they ask is not very nice.

I do not like people like them. They are nightmares. Endless talking...

I find her English to be different.

Is she a native English speaker?

As I am still learning English and want to get it perfect, I prefer to communicate with native English speakers.

Autistic people can be very vulnerable, both in what they post and by being 'taken in' by seemingly innocent posts.

Communication can always be a problem, and I don't want to get too specific here, just thinking and writing down about generalities.Mix that communication problem with a person who writes that they used to be autistic and now they are neueotypical and I cannot help but wonder if this is just a communication problem or there is something a bit deeper, someone trying to gain our confidence or is it simply a problem with language and misunderstandings.

I can be very v vulnerable myself, and so I have to think hard and perhaps overthink  when confronted by a post that looks a bit strange. Often there might be nothing in it, but it may sometimes be better to delay a little to see if there is a better indication of a person being bona fide a little later on.

of coarse it is true for males also, sorry I get carried away as females are only just getting a fair hearing,Well a better hearing than previously, being disgnosed using Male criteria is so wrong, there is a lot of clinical evidence to show new criteria needs to be implemented that suits the specifics females needs.

Hey if I see anyone in need of support I struggle to not lend support. 

Often unwelcome but would rather be told to go take a jump than let anything bad happen.

Me being verbally abused at school mostly by adult teachers tends to give me a unique perspective when I see any form  of bullying,put downs or just ignorance to others.

I hated it then and hate it now, 

take care, 

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I'm not sure what "a grift" means (showing my age again!) but I agree that it's a little concerning how some young people want to leap into dating. Personally I believe it's best to get to know ourselves before jumping into all of that but I suppose that's not a very popular view. It certainly isn't popular with one of my own daughters and that scares the hell out of me!  

Some males are too! I think that it's good we are watching out for both. Remember some people are cruel and ruthless! Being old isn't so bad at least we are past that "I need to meet someone stage" and we can sort of look out for people here.

I see your point and yes it bothered me, But as I said before some younger members are naive to adult ways, 

Some  females on the autistic spectrum sadly have experience of being taken advantage of, a combination of naivety and believing that most are honest.

thank you for your support.

I agree and admire how you responded to the posts. For myself, I don't mind at all being called old - I get that 'affectionately' from my daughters all the time!   : )   Especially in relation to my naivety re. online matters such as this!  

No problem! I'm just cynical about those posts because it mentions dating. Some of us are lonely here and going straight to the dating thing seems a bit of a grift.

Hi Endymion and indeed Cloudy Mountains Lol.it is good to be cautious ,if it had turned out to be malicious then I would have requested the links or details removed by admin so that it could be seen by others as an example to those less able to spot these sort of things.

 All is well I think.

 I have been here nearly a year and there have been new members who struggle greatly, some are indeed naive  and maybe mute, so coming here and trying to have conversations can appear random and seem incorrect to us.

 I chose to try and put myself in the position of the person and attempt to connect.

 I am an older father, so I do get a little protective at times, 

It is nice that those who are maybe older and therefore have had time to learn the intricate ways of life can help others younger, not that I am saying anyone is old of coarse Lol.

take care all. 

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No, nothing to worry about!

No, no I don't but I was trying to think of an analogy lol!  Thanks though, I was worried on behalf of someone else but from what you've said I think I was worried about nothing, thankfully!  

You are OK to reply in the confines of the forum. Just don't get too friendly or give any details unless you are absolutely sure.

The Racheal threads seem suspect. I'd imagine there are no threats unless you click on a link. Never reply to junk e-mails anyway.

Thank you Cloudy Mountains, I googled chat bots and it seems they are not malicious,just used to encourage customer experience, I tried to find any examples of bad uses but came up with only ones that didn’t work very well and a few that got confused and locked user functions, 

I hope I was right to take a chance?

It is a reality that some who come here are  first timers in many ways, some have little knowledge of social interaction, some do not understand internet  usage or forum etiquette,it is easy to forget although we are all in some way autistic we are indeed all very much different, in views and abilities.

thank you cloudy Mountains for adding some reassurance to this matter.

Thank You! Yes, I saw those ones too. What is the point of them? I can't see any harm in 'replying' to one in a Thread but is there a worry if someone were to connect with them outside Threads? 

I suppose what I'm asking is, would it be akin to replying to physical junk mail in that there is no problem unless they start asking for your bank details or something? Can they actually be dangerous in that way?