I have had a 'Radar' National Key Scheme key for some time.
I find public toilets impossible, they are smelly and unhygeinic with wet (urine) soaked floors, rudimentary handwashing facilities, and only slightly better than wetting myself. I will only use one when absolutely desperate. I therefore thought that as I was Autistic I would get a key so I could use the 'disabled' toilet.
Problem is, I cannot bring myself to use it. I do not have a wheelchair or have physical problems using a 'normal' toilet. The problems I have are a mental aversion. On the odd occasion I have used the 'disabled' toilet (what a strange name, it is not the toilet that is disabled, it works perfectly!) it is because the normal one is out of use. And it has always been a lot cleaner and more pleasant.
So should I just grit my teeth and bear the normal toilets? Or should I ignore the (perceived) thoughts of those who think I should not use the disabled toilet. Or is it the case I should not use the disabled toilet at all as they are only intended for those who are physically disabled?
Ah - Thank you! :-) . I am from a different planet. I need structure but find it hard to implement it in my own life. The result is an email inbox with 4803 (just checked) unread emails and a constant struggle not to drown in the surrounding chaos. Maybe I ought to start a new thread on this topic? It seems fascinating to me that there are autistics who endogenically create their structure and those like me who need it so badly but like almost need someone to show them how to go about creating it?Until the diagnosis was stamped on me (by no initiation of my own) I never really connected to the world of aspies, as the perceived care, organised and structured way of dealing with special interests is so foreign no me. I have a great love for instance of looking at facades of buildings. But I don't do anything with it (I haven't got a clue about it) It is as if my fascination is meaningless looking without organisation. I also have a very bad working and visual memory - I wonder if the two are linked in anyway.
That’s interesting Procastinator, do you know which planet you’re from? I’m not from this planet either which is what makes it so exciting probably to be here. Do you ever communicate with your people from back home?
I love India and I’ll be going back soon but the one thing I did struggle with initially was the toilets. Many people don’t use toilets, they just go anywhere, on the streets, in the open, anywhere and the toilets they do have are just holes in the floor with a bucket of cold water if you’re lucky to wash, instead of toilet roll.
Oh my word! If you find out which planet your from could you let me know!
I To need structure but need others to do it for me. My email inbox is 8334 yikes, my pictures are mounting up but I cannot bring myself to delete any, I suffer with dyslexia but mainly short term memory.
I find patterns in everything I see, I collect things that are not important, currently my obsession is receipts and price tags for all the things I am buying to please me, my new look, Victorian clothing and anything that makes it complete, each time I go shopping I take every receipt write a discription if what the item is in detail,then staple them all together.?
no idea why.
I saw a manikin type figure made from plumbing fittings which I find funny but shows imagination to give a smile as well. I found myself thinking it would be good to take pictures of all the ones I could find and archive them with dates and locations and each part used in its creation?
I also count things when I am stressed, it seems important for me to do all these things but I have no idea why?
could it be because my memory is so shockingly poor that I try to compensate to try and reinforce it? I am sure most of it is because of my inability to remember things, why must I keep counting letters on a box in front of me? I look at it often, I guess how many letters but never quite trust my guess so am compelled to count to make sure, not always the right guess.
DragonCat16 said:People are going to look down on you and hate you because of the autism anyway.
Not sure about hate. I hope that people do not hate autistic people.
But I have felt that people often find my behavior to be strange.
They often are confused.
Blade said:I struggle enormously with the lack of privacy in many toilets, but I have always worried that I didn't deserve it, or how I would feel if I walked out to find a wheelchair user waiting.
I experience exactly the same.
Blade said:I tend to avoid drinking whilst out to avoid using toilets. That's my usual method in any public space or someone else's house. I would love more freedom, but don't know if I could bring myself to actually use a key.
The same here.
I also need more space as I feel claustrophobic in small spaces.
I have collected all the receipts I have ever had.
I have almost all of them.
It is amazing to know that someone else does the same.
Off topic but ...as I started the topic I can go off-topic if I want .....!
"In the old days, I accepted my photo's got lost if I didn't do something about it, but now as it happens automatically I can't bring myself to actually delete them, and the next I-cloud back up is very expensive. Have you got a system?"
I upload all my pictures to Flickr. You can set it to upload automatically when you take them if you like You can tag them, make them visible to everyone or just to friends or family, or keep them for your private viewing only. It is free and you get a terabyte of storage (which is an awful lot, it would take half a million pictures to fill it up ... and if you did you could just open another account keeping your original one as well. There is an app you can use or you can just go to the link below. It will also automatically sort your pictures into categories - animals, insects, architecture, etc.
Some of my pictures (not of toilets!) you can see here:
My flickr pictures
hoooooooly Moses (I have never used that expression before, but there is a first for everything!) Wow! I looooveee (if I had mathematical symbols on my keyboard I would put 99 in superscript to the love) your pictures. I only got through the first two pages and I realise I am quite happy just staring at one picture for quite a long time. I wish I could show my uncle. How cool is that!
I don't have a yahoo account. But I feel inclined to subscribe.
Thank you so much also for this great tip of using flickr. It is a bit embarrassing because really my photo's are a lot of junk. It is a bit like clearing my inbox and my house (the latter has gotten a lot better since my diagnosis).I'm curious about the people I presume to be blackfaced Morris dansers. Was that a chance sighting, or do you know the scene? I am curious about the link with Moresca dancing. But I heard people say these English Morris dancers painted their faces so the Lord of the manor wouldn't recognise them?
I might take one artistic photo every once in a while just by luck. If I don't check myself I compulsively take pictures of pigeons and I also love overhead tram wiring, train cables, tram tracks, train undercarriages (only sideways ;-) ), water, scaffolding, ducks, metal work and especially the little stone posts at the sides of old garages intended to protect the wheels of carriages!
Thanks for putting a happy smile to my face, which appeared when I saw the engines appear! By the way, the colour filter you use reminds me of those colour photographs taken at the beginning of the 20th century in Russia: Old Russian Colour Photography I might be imagining things, as I have a dodgy visual memory.
Trainspotter said:Off topic but ...as I started the topic I can go off-topic if I want .....!
...Yes you can. But it does make it a little difficult to find such conversation or helpful insights, however.
I have said in other Threads that a "Photography" Thread should be begun (or re-begun). I myself am only *told* by others that I am "good" at photography, and so it is not a profession for myself, and so I may talk about starting a Thread yet not do so...
(I suppose this is a sort of complaint, but, well, it is difficult to tell even for myself even as I am the one writing it...!)