I have had a 'Radar' National Key Scheme key for some time.
I find public toilets impossible, they are smelly and unhygeinic with wet (urine) soaked floors, rudimentary handwashing facilities, and only slightly better than wetting myself. I will only use one when absolutely desperate. I therefore thought that as I was Autistic I would get a key so I could use the 'disabled' toilet.
Problem is, I cannot bring myself to use it. I do not have a wheelchair or have physical problems using a 'normal' toilet. The problems I have are a mental aversion. On the odd occasion I have used the 'disabled' toilet (what a strange name, it is not the toilet that is disabled, it works perfectly!) it is because the normal one is out of use. And it has always been a lot cleaner and more pleasant.
So should I just grit my teeth and bear the normal toilets? Or should I ignore the (perceived) thoughts of those who think I should not use the disabled toilet. Or is it the case I should not use the disabled toilet at all as they are only intended for those who are physically disabled?
NAS36609 said:My solution (similar to what Robert has said) is to have a few “safe” places where I know I can go to the toilets and they will be in a pleasant state. Alternatively, I have been known to deliberately not drink anything while I’m out so that I don’t have to go - not recommended but I’d rather that than the anxiety of using a toilet when out.
I have the same approach.
Trainspotter said:I do face another problem with public toilets and that is complete lack of privacy.
I experience the same. This is a huge problem for me in public same sex toilets.
Lonewarrior said:Also I never use urinals as They give no privacy at all.
Lonewarrior said:I expect to do what all humans have to do with privacy and a level of cleanliness.
The same here.
I would feel extremely uncomfortable in ones like these.
Especially, if someone else could come in at any time.
I feel very vulnerable in toilets.
I do not understand why people like to write rude things or graffiti on the walls. This is so upsetting. I like nice walls.
Thank you for letting me know about the potential problems in India. This is a good advice and very helpful for me to know.
People are going to look down on you and hate you because of the autism anyway. You might as well give them a reason to feel badly toward you. It's not as if you are going to meet any of them again anyway.
Everyone has a right to a clean toilet. You have a key so that you can exercise that right for yourself. If others want to have a clean toilet to use, they should petition the proprietor to maintain their toilets better.
I say go for it. I would not hesitate for a second if I had a magic key.
I have to agree. If you have a key,. Use it!
Disabled toilets tend to be larger and cleaner and less busy.
The general public toilets are often a mess. I have come across toilets that have flooded floors (both water and the other stuff) this means a clear slip hazard. I have seen toilet seats missing, cubilble doors that don't lock, no toilet paper, toilets that are unflushed because they don't flush. *** on floor and seat!
I have often considered getting one of these keys. I struggle enormously with the lack of privacy in many toilets, but I have always worried that I didn't deserve it, or how I would feel if I walked out to find a wheelchair user waiting.
I tend to avoid drinking whilst out to avoid using toilets. That's my usual method in any public space or someone else's house. I would love more freedom, but don't know if I could bring myself to actually use a key.
I have occasionally used disabled toilets, but only ones that were already open. I think the key is the extra element that would worry me and make me feel guilty, but so many places do use this scheme which limits options if you don't have one.
Hi Robert 123 . These loos still seem pretty decent to me - in comparison to some of the atrocious things I have come across. I mean: there is toilet paper (!!!!) and there' s a functioning seat that can be covered in the toilet paper. The dirt on the floor looks like dirty damp floor with no obvious excrements smeared all over the floor, seat or walls. There is no sanitary protection littering the floor.Top tip number 1: when using a loo with a wet floor: first pull up or fold up your trouser legs if you are wearing trousers before you pull your trousers down :-) Tip 2 you can buy paper toilet seat covers.
Tip 3: use a tissue to touch doors and locks and taps.
Tip 4: don't drop anything on the floor :D
I like the pictures. I can almost feel the atmosphere there. (And smell it)
PS I have a question for you
If you also take pictures of things: my phone automatically uploads everything to I-cloud, I have paid to expand my i-cloud, but because I take too many photo's I don't delete, that is also getting full up and I am feeling stressed about it because I don't have a computer brain. In the old days, I accepted my photo's got lost if I didn't do something about it, but now as it happens automatically I can't bring myself to actually delete them, and the next I-cloud back up is very expensive. Have you got a system?
I downloaded images to a computer. Process them, this includes deleting undesirable ones. Then I back them up onto SD cards that go into tablets and mobile phones.
I also organise them by year/month and event or place visited.