I have had a 'Radar' National Key Scheme key for some time.
I find public toilets impossible, they are smelly and unhygeinic with wet (urine) soaked floors, rudimentary handwashing facilities, and only slightly better than wetting myself. I will only use one when absolutely desperate. I therefore thought that as I was Autistic I would get a key so I could use the 'disabled' toilet.
Problem is, I cannot bring myself to use it. I do not have a wheelchair or have physical problems using a 'normal' toilet. The problems I have are a mental aversion. On the odd occasion I have used the 'disabled' toilet (what a strange name, it is not the toilet that is disabled, it works perfectly!) it is because the normal one is out of use. And it has always been a lot cleaner and more pleasant.
So should I just grit my teeth and bear the normal toilets? Or should I ignore the (perceived) thoughts of those who think I should not use the disabled toilet. Or is it the case I should not use the disabled toilet at all as they are only intended for those who are physically disabled?
I experience similar problems.
I feel extremely uncomfortable and unsafe in same sex public toilets.
They are also smelly and unhygienic with wet (urine) soaked floors, rudimentary hand washing facilities.
I would also almost say that they are only slightly better than wetting myself.
I also feel embarrassed to use the Radar scheme, but this scheme is very helpful for me.
I also like everything to be clean.
I always clean everything after myself and leave the place in the best condition as I can.