Published on 12, July, 2020
hi everyone,
I am very concern the way i am being treated by my specialist as I felt they are forcing to adapt the normal enviroment and i am very traumatizing. I had been hurting myself alot these night with lots of bruises and cant sleep due to the depression.
my specialist had been forcing me to put down my special interest in disney characters, fairy tale and costumed characters and adapt the mainstream enviroment. they even force me to interact with someone I don't like (my peers). My peers loves things like sport and watching television whcih i don't like.
In my world, i like playing with the children and we play together around my area with toys and dolls. the reason i like interacting with the children because they share interest like me. but my specialist is forcing me not to hang out with them because of age difference eventhought no one mind about it. their parent don't bother about this and no one care about this. but they still force me not to hang out with someone who shares interest like me while interact with someone don't have interest like me. they are doing this to me because of my age and i feel like they are bullying me.
i am very traumatized but no adult are listening to me as they all are on my specialist side just because this lady is a therapist. if i talk to my parent about it, they will punnish me for not being greatful to my specialist. I have no one on my side. I need help.
I am being forced to adapting an enviroment that i don't like. I am very very traumatized.
Does anyone here is on myside and think it's okay of what i like to be doing as i need help.
reminder i am someone at my very late teen.
I can understand that you feel angry about your therapist and parents asking you to stop doing what you enjoy and have been enjoying for a long time.
They are trying to explain that Peter Pan is a fictitious character who unfortunately cannot exist in real life.
Have you ever though that your love of Disney and fairy tales might be an asset. How about using your love and knowledge of these things to entertain children at birthday parties and children in care homes? You must have developed quite an insight into what it is about these characters and tales that children really enjoy.
just want to know why having autism cant be a freepass of anything. why they still need to follow the social rule eventhought they have problem with social integration or the social rule are hurting them like age difference rules, age expectance and things like that. why can autistic people just do what comfort them and dont grow. you see, i hate my therapist. she is very nasty.
like as you read the stop playing with kids just because of age difference, do you know hans christian anderson was autistic high functioning. but he was undiagnosed but he did the same like me, interacting with children as an adult and these children are not his children or his family. but look at back in those day, would people know what is autism? no they dont but nothing happen to anderson just because he was interacting with other kids. but like nowaday, people should have a better understanding of autism, so like if i went out and play with my little friends, then it should be much fine than anderson's time.
so what's wrong with that therapist. she is even not fit for helping autism except being mena to them and torutre them with the society expectation being agist and slave me to do something i hate like have to interacting with my disgusting peers while the younger children are the king of fairy tales characters while i cant interact with them.
well i am autistic, so why do i have to follow the social structure based on my age. very agist
just want to know could people have this concern if the person turn 16 and still playing with the younger children.
An advocate is someone who helps you put your point of view across, and introduces you to organisations that could assist you.
I imagine that now you are officially an adult, your parents and your therapist are concerned about how today’s society will perceive your playing with children much younger than you. This is sad, but also - unfortunately - realistic.
I don’t know how common this scenario is, but I suspect in the smaller and closer communities of the past, where everyone knew each other, this problem would have been less likely to arise.
As an adult you are at liberty to make your own mind up. I would suggest that you contact a local autism group and see what they think about your situation. They may know of other autistic people suffering from the same problem. They may even know of someone closer to your age who has the same interests as you.
just want to know about age difference friendship, is that common in autistic people, interact with someone very younger them? becuase i heard some people said that some autistic teenager (could be around age 16-19) are more comfortable to interact with the children while refuse interacting with people same age as them.
what is autistic advocate?
I can understand why you feel that the therapist is wrong to judge your love of Disney characters, and your wish to continue playing with your friends, through the lens of her own and society’s prejudices. She is supposed to be your therapist, not your persecutor. At the very least, she has shown a lack of subtlety and sympathy.
Have I read your post correctly in thinking that you live in Ireland? Maybe a second opinion or some support from your local autistic community would help resolve this problem. An autistic advocate with local knowledge may be the best way forward.