Published on 12, July, 2020
hi everyone,
I am very concern the way i am being treated by my specialist as I felt they are forcing to adapt the normal enviroment and i am very traumatizing. I had been hurting myself alot these night with lots of bruises and cant sleep due to the depression.
my specialist had been forcing me to put down my special interest in disney characters, fairy tale and costumed characters and adapt the mainstream enviroment. they even force me to interact with someone I don't like (my peers). My peers loves things like sport and watching television whcih i don't like.
In my world, i like playing with the children and we play together around my area with toys and dolls. the reason i like interacting with the children because they share interest like me. but my specialist is forcing me not to hang out with them because of age difference eventhought no one mind about it. their parent don't bother about this and no one care about this. but they still force me not to hang out with someone who shares interest like me while interact with someone don't have interest like me. they are doing this to me because of my age and i feel like they are bullying me.
i am very traumatized but no adult are listening to me as they all are on my specialist side just because this lady is a therapist. if i talk to my parent about it, they will punnish me for not being greatful to my specialist. I have no one on my side. I need help.
I am being forced to adapting an enviroment that i don't like. I am very very traumatized.
Does anyone here is on myside and think it's okay of what i like to be doing as i need help.
reminder i am someone at my very late teen.
and also about out playing with my little friends, I often enjoy outplaying with other children and their parent don't mind about that. but since last time i met my speech therapist, she was telling my mum not to let me go out and play because of my age so now i haven't been out playing with other children for a year and i am very depressed. i am forced to adapt the normal enviroment and interact with someone who dont have my interest. the speech therapist even saying that i am being inappropriate for playing with other children just because of my age eventhought those children, their parent and i don't even bother about it.
i have no other adult who would listen to me.
this therapist often force me not to be too different as a way to prevent bullying and that is bullying me. but i shouldnt be doing things for bullies. and if i complain, i will be scolded by my parent for not being greatful to someone who is here to help me.
just want to know what is the advantage on seeing a therapist and have section with them?
Hi Adrian,
I’m sorry to hear that you are really struggling at the moment. It must feel that life is very unfair.
I understand completely that you want to spend your time with people who share your interests; unfortunately sometimes that just isn’t possible. At 18 years of age, you are legally an adult in the UK and clearly this is something which is influencing the reactions of the adults who know you.
At the end of the day, your parents and your therapist just want to keep you safe from harm, and that will include keeping you safe from false accusations, especially where children could be involved. I know it seems unfair to you right now, but they probably just want to help you learn about how your behaviour could be perceived by people who don’t know you and the risks that carries if they misinterpret your actions. Society can be quite judgemental and unforgiving even if you haven’t done anything wrong. I know it doesn’t seem right and is hard to understand but, unfortunately, this is the reality of the world we live in.
Can your therapist put you in touch with your local autism support group? It might be a good way to meet people who also share your interests and, who knows, you may even make some good friends who are of a similar age to you.
One thing we all have to learn as adults is how to compromise and how to negotiate. Maybe these are skills you could work on with your therapist? I think she would be very impressed if you ask her to help you learn these things and understand what feels like an acceptable compromise to you so you aren’t left feeling so bullied and traumatised.
I hope that helps a little? Take good care of yourself.
Nessie
what do you mean by false accusation. these kids usually don't mind playing with me and their parent don't mind and some of these kids do have autism. and we are just having fun with toys and things like that. so why is this an accusation. like i did that throught out my teenagehood and no one mind about it and nothing had happened. so what false accusation could have. isnt age just means how long we have live
and based on "these are fears for my therapist", 1st are these kids are my therapist's children, no, if she that worry, could she explain to the neighbour that i have autism and make them understand what is autism and she should not be controlling my life. these kids parent dont even worried about this and if we know each other for so long, why is this a problem. like why is the police will get invovle for just being friends with someone at different age. like that's agism. police usually arrest someone who only commit crimes but this is not a crime. to exaggerate this, when kids are told about stranger safty, a stranger wouldnt be arrested for just interacting with the children unless they had sexually assaulted the children which i'm not the person who like taking interest on children. no i'm not.
in my opinion, she shouldnt be taking over my life and ruin my life. if i still go out and play today, i should be free to go out and play with children and it should not be stopped unless some one dont like it. and no one else mind and if they did, they would had don't like me since i was 16 but this did not happened.
and why this is not life, i am autistic, she should not force me to do things to comfort her worries which result not allow me to be outplaying and forcing me to put down my disney characters and fairy tales and adapt the normal enviroment and to be with someone who does not comfort me. no that's not the society for an autistic person. i even knew some autistic young adult still interact with children who are not in their family.
like hans christian anderson was autistic but undiagnosed and he did the same things like i did, he never had any problem afterward. then like today, autism are getting best understanding than anderson's time and i got diagnosed with autism at age of 3, so what's the problem with how i interact with children.
the right way for the therapist is to stop grounding me, respect my world, and i want to go out and play, just leave it the way it is and if she worries, then just tell the parents to understand my autism.
but these parent knew i am autistic and that's my nature to be hanging out with someone who has my special interest, not someone at their age so that's why i am hanging out with their children so they dont even bother about it. like i know many adults are friends with children who are not part of their family.
But sorry, i have autism, and these kids and their parent don't mind about me spending times with them. their parent trust me and i trust them and i had been playing with these kids for a long time with no any trouble. and like what you just said about accusation because of my age, people could still accuse a 15 years old hurting a child eventhought they did not because they are spending time with a younger child. but i never experince that. their parent know i have autism and what you just said that's the world we are living in, that's not good enough as i am very traumatized with thta's the world we live in. autism is a forever disability and they should not be stop from being different. the society should know about autism, and some of these kids does have autism.
i feel like you are still on my therapist side