New job, problems.

Many of you on this forum may remember that I started a new job in April and I've been having problems, been off sick with stress, been back to work and now new problems.

At a formal meeting a couple of weeks ago I was given a second chance.  And a formal written letter informed me that they were considering three options.

If I reached the required standards.  

1.  They would recommend to HR that I would be confirmed in the post.

If I didn't reach the required standards.

2.  To extend my probationary period.

3. To refer my case to a formal hearing.

Today I have been officially informed that option #3 has been chosen.  I am due to face a formal hearing within the next ten days.

The big incident was that I was reported for stimming on one occasion.  

Parents
  • Are they aware of your condition? If they are then they're really taking a risk by starting disciplinary procedures against you for being autistic.

  • NO.  They are unaware of any of my past problems.

    My employment advisor ordered me to lie and not to mention any mental or physical disabilities or problems.  She instructed me to appear as 'normal' and well balanced as possible.   Otherwise I would be intentionally making myself unemployable.

  • Get rid of the employment advisor 

  • I know, but they’re giving you conflicting information and I’m not sure that any of them are really interested in you, they sound more interested in ticking boxes.  You need the right support, otherwise people get the wrong impression of us. My first support worker, even though she was great, thought I was acting like a spoilt brat because I can’t always eat and drink. 

    Just tell them enough is enough, you need specialist support, this is not working out for anybody and you don’t feel like you’ve got the strength to go through it all again, you want support that will address your specific needs by somebody who understands them. You deserve that. You were a carer to your parents for many years and now you deserve the help you always needed, the help we all (us late comers to the party) needed and I can tell you, getting the right support has made a huge difference to my life already, and we’re only 3 or 4 weeks in. 

  • Thanks.  I will look into it.

    I also have a second advisor from yet a different organisation helping me.

Reply Children
  • I know, but they’re giving you conflicting information and I’m not sure that any of them are really interested in you, they sound more interested in ticking boxes.  You need the right support, otherwise people get the wrong impression of us. My first support worker, even though she was great, thought I was acting like a spoilt brat because I can’t always eat and drink. 

    Just tell them enough is enough, you need specialist support, this is not working out for anybody and you don’t feel like you’ve got the strength to go through it all again, you want support that will address your specific needs by somebody who understands them. You deserve that. You were a carer to your parents for many years and now you deserve the help you always needed, the help we all (us late comers to the party) needed and I can tell you, getting the right support has made a huge difference to my life already, and we’re only 3 or 4 weeks in.