I am worried about my 19 year old son. He is lovely, doesn't drink, smoke,swear etc and generally he's a good lad but im worried something is not quite right. I have always said he's a bit different but because of his good nature i didn't really worry although there have been times over the years when things have seemed more obvious. Whats currently bought this to attention again is how much he isolates himself. He doesnt leave the house unless to go and play football which is twice a week, he mostly only talks to me via text message even if we are in the same room and mostly if i try and talk to him he will leave the room and text me or just ignore me completely. He wont answer the phone , Ever and wont answer the door ( i reallly dont know why ) recently he asked me to cook for him at 11.30 at night, i didnt obviously as i had already cooked at teatime, anyway i ended up ordering him a kebab but it was really late at this point, i then fell asleep telling him food was on its way, i woke up the next morning and my 13 year old explained that when the food arrived my son text him saying open the door the food is here, my 13 year old was asleep so my 19 year old waited for the man to drive off then woke my 13 year old to say why didnt you get the door i really wanted that. obviously there are several things wrong with that whole situation and honestly i dont understand whay someone would want food, know the food was on the other side of the door yet not answer. trust me its not laziness, its a problem. My son doesnt speak in a normal manner and behaves quite childlike but never aggressive or nasty which is why i cant moan or anything . he sits in his room almost all day in the dark with a blanket wrappped round his head and is usually biting or sucking his t shirt. sometimes when he talks its almost like he has a tic as he kind of blurts things out and most of the time when i talk he says shut up idiot to literally everything i say. i have tried to have conversations with him about what he wants to do with his life and he covers his face, or hides his face in the back of the sofa. the other week i had a pack of mince on the side for dinner he put the pack on the floor and said im not eating that then kicked it across the kitchen and he chuckles as he does it as if we are playing, he really doesnt see that its not normal behavior. I have tried talking to him but i dont know if he has a clue that things arent quite right. help
I cannot say if your son has autism but perhaps a good place to start is NAS' helpline web page (www.autism.org.uk/.../main.aspx).
If you were interested in finding out if you are on the autism spectrum, you would need to have a formal diagnostic assessment. You may find it useful to have a look at the following link for further information about diagnosis and the benefits of getting one:
Furthermore, it is important the professional you see has experience of autism spectrum disorders. You can find details of diagnostic services on our Autism Services Directory in the Assessment and diagnosis section:http://www.autism.org.uk/directory.aspx
You may like to have a look at the following page which includes personal accounts, which may help:http://www.autism.org.uk/about/adult-life/stories.aspx
It might also be useful to pass on information about autism to health professionals when seeking a diagnosis. The following page includes information for a range of health professionals: http://www.autism.org.uk/Working-with/Health.aspx
If you have further questions, you may like to contact our Autism Helpline team. They can provide you with information and advice about getting a diagnosis. You can call them on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Thursday 10am to 4pm, Friday 9am to 3pm).Please note that the Helpline is experiencing a high volume of calls and it may take a couple of attempts before you get through to speak to an advisor.
Hope this helps,