Whenever I get close to people they leave. I cannot hold a strong, close friendship with anyone for more than a couple of years as they always end up leaving me. Unfortunately, my mental health falls apart whenever this happens, my depression and anxiety gets a lot worse as I always feel that there is something wrong with me or that I am a horrible person.
Just wondering if anyone else feel this way?
difficukt to say....are you Ble to give more detail? X
Well I'm not really sure what is going on tbh. I have confronted her about it and she says she just needs 'space' but was referring not just to me I think, but then she isn't talking to me at all. Also on top of that she also has ASD and she knows how I feel but hasn't done anything about it and continues to completely block me out.
and also in the last few hours I am now having problems with another friend. it is never ending and now my depression has got a whole lot worse again. Tbh I really don't know how much longer I can put up with it, its horrible cos I felt it was finally starting to improve and then all this happens and I get knocked back again.
One of the things that you find here also is that some of us have down days and our stuck in a hole day...usually when down, someone else here is on an up?.... the crunch us when both parties are on a down xxxx
Have you tried talking to them first and just having a chat with them? This worked for me, at least helped me understand, maybe it will for you too. x
Yes unfortunately I have tried but didn't really get anywhere. She just replied with something like I just need space then walked off. Don't get me wrong I understand she needs space but needing space and completely blocking someone out and not talking to them are different things. Also the space thing was also directed towards my other friends who she IS talking to. So I am so confused and hurt and don't really know what to make of it. x
As for the other friend, the issues were not as major and it only happened recently so not too worried about that rn
It is really difficult but your ASD will be different from hers...she might have other things going on that meant though she might want to engage she can't. We found here there we have a small pocket per day of emotional engagement (it is a balancing act)....sometimes we have to retreat to recover so we don't damage ourselves....even though it might let down others x
Mmmm... But I still don't understand why she is talking to everyone else other than me (even some people who she doesn't particularly like)? x
True....are you strong enough to leave her be at the moment? I know one of the big issues is us types over analysing everything......ASD is such a frustration, isn't it?