Published on 12, July, 2020
My experience, based on a rather small sample, is that there is a strong overlap between being on the Spectrum and having at least some doubts about ones gender identity. Possibly our lack of social awareness (= tact) means we are more ready to admit to something that most people would keep well hidden. Possibly there is a real correlation.
At one point I found that of the four male Aspies regularly posting to a small forum, three had well developed female personas. Too small a sample, but interesting. Another forum member was a paintball ref and really one of the lads (and female).
Anyone else willing to speak for themselves? Any parents noticed boyish girls or girlish boys?
I believe I am gender-less. Gender does not shape who I am. I like to look good, but only if it makes me comfortable, so no high-heels, make-up or short skirts. I look very girly, so would not pass for a 'tom-boy', but I do not abide by any gender-rules, because who cares? we are all human in my mind, and that is what counts. Live and let live, social norms are a waste of time