Published on 12, July, 2020
I would look into the home - schooling route if you can. I was very much the same between the ages of 4 - 8, when I finally stopped crying every day of school. But in essence, the damage was done. I'd hate to see that happen to your son, or for you to feel guilty forever.
I've no idea how hard it can be as a parent of an ASD child, despite having lived with my ex-partner's child. It's a full - time job, & I wouldn't entrust it to any jobsworth teacher or school. They don't care like you will, they're there for the majority & to tick boxes.
You'll be surprised what you can live without. I live on an amount now I never could've considered 10 years ago, it can be done. You can do it.
Hey there! I'm sorry you have to deal with this and its nothing to be ashamed of. Its a good thing your son is ten meaning he has a life ahead of him where he can learn to manage his anxiety. In general - its never too late.
What I would highly reccomend is to get a threapist or psychologist who has professional knowlege of autism as they are the most reliable to help you and your son. I'm getting it myself as well after being 19 years in this earth. I honestly thing the sooner you get help, the better. In the meantime, it will be better if your son has a supported staff who can be with him through his school journey. A bit like a learning support assistant as it will help him deal with his school life. If not then maybe consider moving to a different mainstream school or even a special school where they can support your son well because it's really an essential. Some schools are too reluctant to help which gets to nowhere and shoudln't be relied on. It also wastes a lot of time. I know its hard to move schools during this time but its worth trying.
In terms of your son's anxiety, I suffer from anxiety as well even though I don't have much sensory sensitivity. Find some hobbies or other relaxing and happy things that makes your son feel good. It will help clear his mind, and for yourself as well. I'm sorry if I didn't have a lot to say in this section but there are many online resources on mental health for yourself even. :)
Whenever your son feels anxious, ask him what makes him worried and why he feels that way. Acknowledging the struggles is a good first step.
I hope this helps, if not then I apologise. Getting help as soon as possible is really important! Hope everything gets better soon. x