I have Aspergers Syndrome, and there is a particular person that I have a crush on, and want to ask out on a date. However, I could be wrong, but I’ve got a feeling that they don’t like me (in that way) back. I’ve avoided asking them out up until now, because I’m really afraid that if they reject me, it will trigger feelings of self-hatred, both in terms of my appearance and myself as a person, as due to having Aspergers, I haven’t always found fitting in easy, and I’m afraid that being rejected in a relationship sense will bring all of these feelings flooding back quite badly. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with relationship rejection with having Aspergers?
Eh. Been there done that. Spent most of my youth crushing on girls from a distance. And some girls were openly interested and I was ignoring them for years. Two women told me that they did everything (except ask me out) to get my attention and that they were "over me". One actually was sitting in my dorm in a nightgown with perfume and I only noticed when she left. Another said, "why do you think I kept asking you for help in the art cupboard?'
She likes you
- a girl who likes you will be making excuses to be alone with you! Because they are comfortable.
Getting past rejection.
Practice on random women for your warm up. Complementing people/women.
Complement random women in the street. (and walk off)
Don't complement physical attributes, legs. Say something like, "Hi, I think you have a wonderful smile." Maintain a little eye contact and walk off.
If this is too much
Use a dating app to get used to talking to women. Anyway, that said I prefer OKCupid and "plenty of fish".
Once you have enough courage, just ask her out and be prepared for a no. And also be prepared for a yes. (get number, think of a nice place to go)
Please don't compliment random women, it's really horrible. By all means, compliment women (and men! Men never get compliments) that you know well, but not random women. Do you work with this person? Why not start small and go for lunch with her and a couple of others? So it's not so much a date but you can get to know each other a little better