The toxic interaction between Autism and Narcissism

I've been looking into psychosocial dynamics of why a developmental disorder and and a personality disorder can be so destructive to the wellbeing of both individual sufferers when in the presence of one another. They appear to operate as polar opposites in terms of dysfunctions of nature.

  • A narcissist project hurt down to others to get them to satisfy their needs.
  • An autist reflect hurt back to themselves into a meltdown of needs.
  • NT's simply help each other with their needs.

The solution to this is to break apart the cycle of suffering that enables the perpetuated spiral of emotionally negative transactions. Physical distancing may very well be necessary to help the situation of toxic transmissions of hate and fear.

Once separated, realisation of ones own grief is necessary to ensure that psychic losses are contained and accepted within the confines of their own environment. Only when awareness of compromised psychic defences has been realised that healing can truely take place without risk of future breakdown. Any length of intervention can only be determined by the end users decision making capacity for their own welfare.

Please note that these are my own thoughts as a male aspie that has been brought up by narcissistic mother for almost 2 decades and is still struggling with the fallout of psych-ache.

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  • From that page:

    "Theory of mind (T.O.M) means you have the ability to understand that other people have thoughts that differ from your own."

    Of course I have the ability to comprehend that other people are autonomous and have their own thoughts, independent of mine...(!)

    I just don't know what those thoughts they have might be! Whenever I ask people "you look X, are you feeling Y?", they almost always tell me I've gotten it wrong...

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  • “People with Aspergers generally are high functioning in everyday life but have great difficulty connecting with others due to the inability to read faces, body language and subtle verbal clues. They also tend to take words literally and have a hard time multi-tasking.”

    Taken from an article Aspergers and the Alien,

    yes we do understand others have thoughts that differ from our own. 

    I often misunderstand and feel I have done or said something wrong, this in turn makes me feel low, I start to believe I have caused upset, no amount of reassurance after makes me feel any better.

    it Is due to constantly being wrong in many ways, a life of never getting it right. To give unconditional love and feel it is rejected, An offer to help being misunderstood as me trying to gain something from it?

     I will continue being wrong as I only try to do what I feel is right.

    The pain never gets less, but I can understand my actions are based on belief for others and not through a need to control or manipulate them.