The toxic interaction between Autism and Narcissism

I've been looking into psychosocial dynamics of why a developmental disorder and and a personality disorder can be so destructive to the wellbeing of both individual sufferers when in the presence of one another. They appear to operate as polar opposites in terms of dysfunctions of nature.

  • A narcissist project hurt down to others to get them to satisfy their needs.
  • An autist reflect hurt back to themselves into a meltdown of needs.
  • NT's simply help each other with their needs.

The solution to this is to break apart the cycle of suffering that enables the perpetuated spiral of emotionally negative transactions. Physical distancing may very well be necessary to help the situation of toxic transmissions of hate and fear.

Once separated, realisation of ones own grief is necessary to ensure that psychic losses are contained and accepted within the confines of their own environment. Only when awareness of compromised psychic defences has been realised that healing can truely take place without risk of future breakdown. Any length of intervention can only be determined by the end users decision making capacity for their own welfare.

Please note that these are my own thoughts as a male aspie that has been brought up by narcissistic mother for almost 2 decades and is still struggling with the fallout of psych-ache.

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  • Nice distinction.  And I speak from experience.  Having a Narcissist living with me for months. Was a nightmare.  Made me doubt myself and lose even the little trust in people I had before Head bandage

  • From that page:

    "Theory of mind (T.O.M) means you have the ability to understand that other people have thoughts that differ from your own."

    Of course I have the ability to comprehend that other people are autonomous and have their own thoughts, independent of mine...(!)

    I just don't know what those thoughts they have might be! Whenever I ask people "you look X, are you feeling Y?", they almost always tell me I've gotten it wrong...