The toxic interaction between Autism and Narcissism

I've been looking into psychosocial dynamics of why a developmental disorder and and a personality disorder can be so destructive to the wellbeing of both individual sufferers when in the presence of one another. They appear to operate as polar opposites in terms of dysfunctions of nature.

  • A narcissist project hurt down to others to get them to satisfy their needs.
  • An autist reflect hurt back to themselves into a meltdown of needs.
  • NT's simply help each other with their needs.

The solution to this is to break apart the cycle of suffering that enables the perpetuated spiral of emotionally negative transactions. Physical distancing may very well be necessary to help the situation of toxic transmissions of hate and fear.

Once separated, realisation of ones own grief is necessary to ensure that psychic losses are contained and accepted within the confines of their own environment. Only when awareness of compromised psychic defences has been realised that healing can truely take place without risk of future breakdown. Any length of intervention can only be determined by the end users decision making capacity for their own welfare.

Please note that these are my own thoughts as a male aspie that has been brought up by narcissistic mother for almost 2 decades and is still struggling with the fallout of psych-ache.

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  • Well as I said previously, I wasn't aware until my psychotherapist pointed it out.  I am oblivious to people who have ulterior motives or bad intentions.  It's only when other people point it out that I become aware of it.  The only way I protect myself now is to be very cautious around people I don't know and even then I make mistakes.  I think the point is you don't know until it is too late, or you have moved on in life where you can look bad in a neutral and non-emotional way so as not to cast bias. 

    If it was so easy to know, then I would want to know how as it would have prevented a lot of unnecessary suffering along the way!

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