Service dog?

   Hi. I am considering training my dog to be a service dog and would like some help in making my decision. First of all I just want to say I know that no one can make the decision for me, and that it is a serious matter to be considered heavily before making a decision. I just thought that it might be a good idea to post something explaining my situation so that I might receive some advice, or in case someone makes a point I hadn't thought of yet. This is a big decision and I want to know as much about it as possible so that I make a good choice. This is a decision I will also be discussing with me family and my psychologist. But I thought that speaking with others with autism might be beneficial (I am also using forums about service dogs).
   So getting to my situation. I am a young adult with autism and a generalized anxiety disorder. I am beginning to become more independent, I'm about to start college and I take myself to some of my doctors appointments. The problem is that my sensory issues combined with my anxiety prevent me from doing a lot of things I should/need to be able to do. I cannot go to the grocery store by myself as the bright lights, loud noises, and stressors of trying to stay in budget raise my stress so high I have to leave the store prematurely and usually have a meltdown in the car (in the parking lot) or the second I get home.
   I also cannot do things like go into a restaurant, even a fast food one, I am only just comfortable with using the drive through (and I am not comfortable eating as I drive). Since my appointments are in the afternoon and an hour away from home this often means skipping lunch entirely or eating hurriedly in the parking lot. There is only one store I always feel comfortable going into by myself (a craft store that is usually not crowded or loud), and on a really really good day I may be able to go to the library as well. When I have to drive myself to a doctors appointment by the time I have gotten back home I am too exhausted to do anything the rest of the day and sometimes can't do anything the next day.
   My dog will come over to me when I'm stressed and having a meltdown or on the edge of one and roll over so I rub her chest in a circular motion (an action that is extremely calming for me), or let me rub her soft furry ears (sensory heaven). She even sits in my lap or on my foot (if I'm standing), something she normally doesn't do or enjoy. If she cannot calm me down or I don't begin to pet her she will go get my mother so that my mom will calm me down. I think I could also train her to bark or paw at me until I stop doing self harming behaviors (hair pulling, hitting my head, biting my wrists, or scratching aggressively at my arms). This would be useful because when I am calm I know I shouldn't do these things. But when I'm stressed or having a meltdown I cannot go through the thought process of 'this is bad for me I need to stop'. I think she could also be trained to remind me to take my medication (I often forget) but that is not my main goal.
   I believe having her with me would keep my calm enough to allow me to do things like go grocery shopping, get food, and take myself to important appointments without leaving me ill. I obviously wouldn't take her with me unnecessarily. I wouldn't take her with me if my mother or another trusted human companion was going with me who could keep me calm. I wanted people's opinion on this because I really respect the laws and system that allow people to have dogs who help them function with them - and I don't want to be taking advantage of this system. Once again I know I am responsible for the final decision on this, but I wanted to gather as much relevant information on this as possible. If you have any questions that will allow you to answer better I will answer them as well as I can. Thank you for reading this (I know it was really long), and for your answers, I really appreciate your help.

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  • Just a comment - this is the forum of the UK based National Autistic Society. I am guessing that you are in USA from some of the terms in your post?

  • Yeah I am. Hope that's not a problem, it was kind of late, and I was kind of tired when I signed up. Oops.

  • Hi NAS I don't think he was inferring that you could not/ should not be commenting on this forum site... : )  I don't see why someone's personal, physical location should be any issue at all, especially if it is simply 'forum fellowship' that someone is seeking, not referrals to services, or other, 'location-related-issues', Some things transcend 'physical boundaries' - autism, ASD, and all other situations relative to 'the human condition' are themselves, not 'location-oriented' so why would it be that any organization, in hoping to be 'beneficial and helpful', would choose to think it 'beneficial and helpful' to their goal, to set aside the vast majority of people who might otherwise, choose to become part of its efforts to touch the lives of others - regardless of location... : )   But if I am wrong, and were such exclusions in place - then don't feel alone, since it would apply to me as well....  : )  But don't worry - I simply don't think such is the case... I guess we will find out - so no worries - no one can burn bridges that they haven't yet gotten too....  so may you have a peaceful... and beautiful day...  : )

  • I find that, personally, I tend to seek the company of my dog when I am more in a mood for being 'outgoing and a bit more spontaneous'... whereas with my cats - I tend to seek out a particular cat's companionship according to what I am 'seeking in regards to their company'...

    One loves to be held and cuddled, hold him like a baby and sing 'rock a bye baby' to him and he keeps rhythm with his tail, swaying back and forth...

    His mother, my older cat, is very, very aloof and will 'talk a lot' sometimes following me around and carrying on to the point of exhausting me with her constant 'chattering'... (she is mostly Siamese and seems to have an extensive vocabulary all her own - which she seems to think humans are fully understanding of  : )  (Everyone who has ever been around and seen this thinks it's quite funny - she and I 'conversing' as I go about working around the house or in the yard.) yet she tends to not want to be held or even petted, but she will come and sit within arms reach, occasionally turning her head to 'chirp... twitter... coo...' whatever she deems worth vocalizing, sort of like she is 'commenting' on something she is watching...and then will turn her eyes and attention back to what she was watching and go back into 'quiet contemplation' - which is fine by me  : ) ...

  • No indeed, I have no problem with people posting from abroad but sometimes there are differences in how things work in different countries. I haven't heard of people having assistance dogs for autism but that doesn't really mean much. There is a well recognised affinity between autistic people and cats on this forum but I don't recall dogs being mentioned nearly so much.

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  • No indeed, I have no problem with people posting from abroad but sometimes there are differences in how things work in different countries. I haven't heard of people having assistance dogs for autism but that doesn't really mean much. There is a well recognised affinity between autistic people and cats on this forum but I don't recall dogs being mentioned nearly so much.

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  • I find that, personally, I tend to seek the company of my dog when I am more in a mood for being 'outgoing and a bit more spontaneous'... whereas with my cats - I tend to seek out a particular cat's companionship according to what I am 'seeking in regards to their company'...

    One loves to be held and cuddled, hold him like a baby and sing 'rock a bye baby' to him and he keeps rhythm with his tail, swaying back and forth...

    His mother, my older cat, is very, very aloof and will 'talk a lot' sometimes following me around and carrying on to the point of exhausting me with her constant 'chattering'... (she is mostly Siamese and seems to have an extensive vocabulary all her own - which she seems to think humans are fully understanding of  : )  (Everyone who has ever been around and seen this thinks it's quite funny - she and I 'conversing' as I go about working around the house or in the yard.) yet she tends to not want to be held or even petted, but she will come and sit within arms reach, occasionally turning her head to 'chirp... twitter... coo...' whatever she deems worth vocalizing, sort of like she is 'commenting' on something she is watching...and then will turn her eyes and attention back to what she was watching and go back into 'quiet contemplation' - which is fine by me  : ) ...