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I don't feel the same as many of you

TheCatWoman
1 month ago

I feel like an outsider here, my experiences seem very diferent, my interests different, the things I do or don't do are different. The books I find helpful or not are different. Most of you seem like lovely people, so I'm not having a go at any of you, but I just feel like I don't really belong here with the rest of you, I don't feel like it's imposter syndrome, more like I stick out like a sore thumb because of some of the above. I feel like I'm irritating people because of my differences, here I feel almost as much of an outsider as I do in NT company.

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  • 1 month ago

    I think there are an awful lot of people here who feel like that, myself included. 

    TheCatWoman said:
    Most of you seem like lovely people, so I'm not having a go at any of you, but I just feel like I don't really belong here with the rest of you, I don't feel like it's imposter syndrome, more like I stick out like a sore thumb because of some of the above. I feel like I'm irritating people because of my differences, here I feel almost as much of an outsider as I do in NT

    I could easily have written that myself, but unlike yourself I am qualified by chromsomes & boomer upbringing to mansplain why you feel like that!

    But I won't. Except  to point out that how we feel isn't neccesarily an indication of how we are wired. Feelings are complicated... 

    There are people here who seem very like me, then suddenly they aren't. Believe it or not, you are one of those from my perspective, I do hope you do not find that bit of truth horrifying.. For example we both share a friend who we both find to be an outstandingly nice person...  

    Part of autism seems to be well descibed in the character Small Dave the brenttofrd postman, and as much as we complain about the NT's pigeonholing us, we do it seems as a group have a tendancy towards Black and White thinking in the main, and few of us manage to get past that, even for short periods of time... 

    It's VERY easy to feel like an alien here...  

  • 1 month ago in reply to I Sperg

    I go out of my way to make an impression, online. Like Howard stern, i might push some buttons here and there. But IRL i try to manage my self.

    I'm an alien where ever I go. I am the man who fell to earth (Bowie) meets the....uh, t2000, or if i;m in a good mood, Jim Carrey. Andy Kaufman style whacko. Incidentally..They say Jim has ADHD and autism. I believe it.

    I go off on tangents. People find that...problematic.

  • 1 month ago in reply to Lestat

    I love Stern and Kaufman. Great guys.

  • 1 month ago in reply to Desmond79
    Desmond79 said:
    Oasis was the reason Nineties Kids appreciated the Music of the Sixties and Seventies

    That and Stubborn parents who played elvis and the fab four and insisted they listen

  • 1 month ago in reply to Lestat

    Oasis was the reason Nineties Kids appreciated the Music of the Sixties and Seventies. Slight smile

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