Published on 12, July, 2020
I made 3 friends on here in the 2nd half of last year. I’ve not heard from any of them since April! And I’ve still not met any of them! I’ve invited all 3 of them to come and visit me, and every time I didn’t even get a reply.
Is there something about autism that makes people less likely to keep in touch with their friends or something? Other than anxiety about travelling (which wouldn’t affect e-mailing me) I’m not aware of anything.
And none of them have replied to my e-mail asking for contact details either so I don’t know any of their phone numbers, so I can’t contact them that way to ask what’s going on.
They all tell me (or did until April) that I’m lovely and wonderful and yet they’re all acting as if they don’t want to meet me. I don’t understand why!
sometimes, for some, the forum is enough and...
otherwise it takes a long time of "watering the friendship garden" the get those marrows to grow big and strong.
Sometimes people from here disappear as they are in hospital too. That's always been a factor with this place. Many Autists have Mental Health issues.
You don't say how long you had been friendly with these members before you became 'friends' with them. Based on my own experiences, I feel it is better to take one's time getting to know other members via forum discussions, before sending/accepting friend requests.
Friendships can be a complicated business.
I wouldn't take it Personally Mark.Am sure it is just " circumstances ".
Mark said:I’ve invited all 3 of them to come and visit me, and every time I didn’t even get a reply.
Mark said:And none of them have replied to my e-mail asking for contact details either so I don’t know any of their phone numbers, so I can’t contact them that way to ask what’s going on.
It might be more appropriate for you keep your interaction with your friends here confined to this forum.
Females in particular may be unlikely to want to share those personal details.
Mark's suggestion about an autistic meet up might suit your desires better, as in real life, people are wanting at least similar to what you are.
Hi Mark from another Mark. I've not been around very long, but isn't this all meant to be anonymous? I would be ultra careful about sharing details and I'm not particularly vulnerable. I've seen a high turnover on here too with people deciding to take a break and even leaving.
Also just getting out there can be a scary thought for a lot of people here.
Are there any autistic meet ups near where you live? I've signed up for a local scheme with walks, cinema and the like. I've not done one yet because I have only just been accepted.