Disability dating agencies “shallow Hal wants a gal”

also a man telling, not asking, women what they want. classic gas lighting in that room. Sorry I S.

Uhane said:

Sorry dear I Sperg but it's true, stats speak louder than anecdotes

Sometimes I feel like giving up on this forum.

I have read such crap about 'what women want' by men who don't know anything about it - it's written as facts, not the assumptions and ignorance it is.

Maybe talking to women about it 1st might help!

yep: a man man-spaining women. Stats, indeed, yes.

Sorry dear I Sperg but it's true, stats speak louder than anecdotes.

I’m looking for a bird a girlfriend women etc, I don’t want a partner prefer talking to women than men. I would like some more comments from women 

I don’t want a partner I want girlfriend wife not spouse or a partner 

I Sperg said:

It's a cliche but a lot of women are looking for the three sixes. 6 foot tall, 6 figure income, greater than 6 inches long..

It's a bit worse than a cliche ...

I'd love to see some stats on this.

I read a lot of stuff written by men on this forum about women that's just plain wrong.

It may help to consider what you could offer a partner rather than what you are looking for in a partner. doing the first will lead to the next.

I asked for masonic guidance not long ago that didn’t help either. I’m straight single realist seeking a nice gorgeous girl. 

I am under no illusions - I’m obviously sending out signals that put people off

Not lonely the access isn’t there or just bad luck? 

Many years ago I signed up for eHarmony and they rejected my application, saying their algorithm wouldn’t work for me.

Talk about a punch to the gut.

Especially with so many lonely people in the world 

I remember coming back on the train with my mum and dad thinking this wasn’t for me, disabilities has become a business it shoulndt be just looking for someone preferable a girl  

so it was just seeing how many profiles there were and also how long they had been on the books you found discuraging?

There's someone for everyone, and as you've already indicated you are looking for the whole triangle, love sex and marriage. 

I did internet dating 20 years ago and what worked for me was:

I read 400 profiles and found only 16 that I could realistically see me both "suiting" and being "suited" by.  Far, Far more that I'd like to have some sex with, but only 16 out of 400 possible "mates"

I wrote to all 16. something like "Hello, I'm I Sperg, I liked your profile please take a look at mine and see if you would like to email me back.

I got four or five replies, ended up corresponding with four.

Here's the kicker, I'd already mentioined in my profile that I was pereniially skint, (might as well eliminate those who would be disapointed, quickly, I felt) and I had told all four that I was only on a 24 hour hour trial membership, so we'd HAVE to use my personal email account...

I talked to all four by email for a week or so, "What do you talk about? I asked myself" NOTHING SERIOUS came the reply, so I kept it light until one of 'em offered me a date...

I suppose it went well really, as 22 years later I'm about to sit down and have some lunch with her and with the T.V.     

I took a methodical approach, Used the life and people information gleaned from my overly recommended book to sieve through all the unworkables first so try and maximise my chance of success, I was in teh process of losing my house and my life was falling to bits (athough I didn't fully realise it at the time. I knew it was changing, and was optimistic at the time.)

Above all I kept it totally truthful, to avoid infliciting early disappointment, (disappontment ALWAYS hits in a relationship once the bloody stupid phermones (and other self made hallucinogenic drugs your body makes and pumps during the early phases of a relationship to trap us into creating children) clears yours and your new partners systems...

At this point it's really, really, handy to be such a nice and useful person, that your partner is willing to overlook the horrible flaws that they finally noticed. This stops them levaing you straight away and if they have any real character (I looked for that!) they won't have an affair either... 

Neither will you.  

That's what worked for me, mayeb there's some takeaway there. 

I can say with my hand on heart, that the "thought leaders" in media, behind the T.V. programming etc, are leading everyone up the garden path about what realy makes people happy. They just focus on teh sex part and completely ignore the love and marriage part. LOVE actually is stopping yourself complaining out loud when your partner does "that bloody thing" again... It's got sod all to do with being happy, although done right, it makes you more happy & content.

I was thinking about prostitutes or escorts that’s sad in its self I shouldn’t have to pay out for female companionship which makes me more depressed. That’s why I have the masseuse female interaction sad but true kind regards 

I’ve had a stalker which has left me with mental health anxiety and agoraphobia pushing myself isn’t easy, i said to my counsellor having had a stalker has devastated my life every part, so pushing myself isn’t easy kind regards 

seeing page after page of disabled all looking for love like (it was run as a business) at the time i wasnt diagnosed I was mild autism. One lady said it’s not about looks I’m single I haven’t been able to meet anyone suitable I feel left on the shelf I could be a good husband good boyfriend to someone? Hope that clarifies. It was a last resort as I couldn’t meet anyone suitable. Kind regards I’ve tried tinder etc no luck I guess just ugly

It's a cliche but a lot of women are looking for the three sixes. 6 foot tall, 6 figure income, greater than 6 inches long..

I recommend using the book that I recommend in my bio for learning and practicing the techniques of  being an "instinctively eligeable" male. 

I've found that what women look for, and what they actually want and will make them happy, are two fairly different sets of qualities. 

And in this, I'm totally certain of my facts and have put in solid research and have relevant experience. 

Disabled does not mean "useless", but it des mean that you need to match your strengths to the requirements very carefully. 

Also, reading "Games People Play" will teach you enough to "get by in the pub" (providing you don't actually drink more than teh driving limit) which when you've snagged your girl, SOME social outings HAVE to be done, so you might as well tool up for them. HEll, havinga  long term partner is SUCH a double edged sword, there's LOADS of new crap to put up with, but it's still overall more sul enriching that the solitary life for most people. 

TBF it's just as bad for the women, just in a different way. 

Under the WHO and Universal declaration of human rights and various clauses is the right of disabled to have a sexuality and eqaul access to health care.

And this is the hard part. It's like the right to be a parent. People are happy to call it a right untill someone has to pay for IVF or the issue of aquiring sperm / egg donations or surogates comes up. In practice it not a right to be a parent it's a right not to have the state stop you being a parent and it tends to work the same way with sex. I'm sure some disabeled people who's disabilities make it infesable to get pregnant naturally have gotten the goverment to pay for IVF etc. I know some nordic countries have scheams that pay for disabled people to visit prostitutes ... but as we've asertained you don't want that, lots of people don't. It's an indictment of modern sociaty that no one has come up with a better scheam for addressing disabled sexlessness than subsidised prostitution.

As I've said before their ought to be some sort of facilitated dating scheam. Like speed dating where the autistic people of one gender get their own speed dating event where people of the oposite sex (mostly neurotypical) get in free, get free drinks etc. Lure the oposite sex in with a good party and then let them get to see peoples personalities. Make it so there is a 2 to 1 gender ration in faviour of the autistic people.

I’ve tried disability dating agencies with no luck, it was the worst experience of my life ever! I went to a disability dating agency I was shown a brochure, page after page of disabled all looking for love it was degrading and demoralising.

Do you mind sharing what spicificly you found degrading / demorilising about it?