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shining in the dark said:

Hi,

Greetings shining in the dark ~ perhaps choose a user name as those of us with dyslexia and dyscalculia and others find it difficult to identify with numbers and letters, where as fictional name or some such is so much easier. 

shining in the dark said:

I am new to this website.

Everybody is new to this website as it goes being that the NAS just updated it at the end of August, but anyway welcome and hope you enjoy yourself and have a good time here.

I am nearly 50 and have Asperger's' also, although I like to say or write that I am Aspergian myself just as others like to call themselves Aspie.

shining in the dark said:

I am struggling with social interaction.I am good with my topics of interest but I don't know what to say about me.  Is there anybody like me ?

Although I struggle with social interaction, communication and imagination myself ~ I can do the topics of interest like you but unlike you I have trouble overdoing the me stuff, so minimising that is my main difficulty. There are though many people who do not know how to relate with others about themself ~ mostly due to lack of experience. So hopefully you can get that here as most of us on the spectrum have had more experience of being dominated and negated for not fitting in socially with those who are neurologically typical, rather than having been facilitated and affirmed as a neurologically divergent individual.

shining in the dark said:

I leaned a lot about emotions through the years but the truth is I dont understand them all as they can be complex so I just acknowledge them and accept it. but I am awkward at friendship. I am better to show in action rather than " expressing myself with emotions" 

Well as some find it may just be a case of having their emotional wavelength as being on a different frequency, and relating more with those on the same frequency can better help with their emotional understanding and comprehension. For others of course there may be emotional disassociation on account of trauma, or the condition Alexthymia may be involved where individuals do not have the ability to relate with their or other peoples feelings either in part, or whole.

shining in the dark said:

I am a caring person and it is part of my job and I learnt the good words for comfort people but when it is new situation with emotions I can still struggle sometimes 

Believe it or not that is actually quite usual or "Standard Procedure"  regarding new mindset and body settings ~ but most people (i.e., the neurologically typical or NTs) just go along with the flow and hope, where as we (the neurologically divergent or NDs) have to be particularly careful as the autistic or "aspergenic" flow is as stated above on a different frequency or channel to the greater majority of people.

It often transpires that once we mix more with those like ourselves we are able to finally find the facilitation and affirmation that we need to become physically, mentally and psychically integrated as individuals, involving emotional identification ~ where we learn our emotional language or dialect and start feeling more ourselves as being as we are, rather than as having to be otherwise and elsewhere to fit in with neurotypical ideologies when we can just be ourselves without having to socially camouflage and personally mask so much, or even at all.

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