Scared and don't trust anyone

I have got into money problems because I hate filling in forms and paperwork in general, now I am going to get fines and repayment delays and letters written in big red font. 

I get hung up with filling forms in myself, but it is just a case of getting them filled in one at a time by yourself or by way of hired help and thereafter copying them except for relevant changes such as dates and stuff when it is time to do so again.

'One of the none to pleasant curses with autism's blessings is that each new venture or even further ventures can involve some panic, which often this panic has more to do with previous situations rather than present ones, so keep that in mind and resist the past sabotaging the present and therefore the future. Breath deeply and gently as if you lungs are in your pelvis and each breath in sucks your feet to the floor and each breath out roots your feet to the floor, breath away the tension of the anxiety, do not allow it to overrule you. Pace yourself, one form at a time, one section at a time, either you can do this yourself or can find someone to help you if not here, someone else nearer to you.  

Where I live, the official letters forms are not in English and I have just pretended they didn't exist because there are formal words I don't understand.

Sort the backlog of letters into piles and deal with each one in turn by using copies or a pad of paper in case of mistakes and once done fill in the form with pencil first for erasing if necessary and ink finally.

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When one form is done do the next one, and so on until all are in their respective envelops and ready and waiting for delivery.

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In terms of formal words you do not understand, can you not use Google translate or similar perhaps?

I'm really scared and I can't sleep or eat properly. I'm so afraid I will lose my job and my home. I don't trust anyone, because they might hear my poor local language and scam me out of all my money. 

If you are though overwhelmed with panic, and cannot get past it ~ do you have perhaps a consulate you can visit; or can you not go to a local or regional authority to seek advice concerning qualified reputable assistance?

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You may as well spend out on a qualified reputable assistant rather than losing out to your anxiety and having inaction scamming you out of all your money.

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How many sets of forms do you have to fill in currently?

Thanks for your advice so far.  You really live up to your username !    I  know it is a matter of knuckling down to it, but I get consumed by anxiety and sometimes hyperventilate when I have to read a letter or update something.

I called the local authority but due to cost cutting I am not allowed to request a meeting.  They are based miles away on another island and I can only have a meeting if they request it. I have to communicate by phone which I struggle with due to Aspergers and language difficulties.  Last time I called them, I panicked and cried. 

It's a good idea with the consulate.  They provide a list of lawyers which seem a bit stuffy, and really expensive, but I didn't think of the actual consulate staff.

There are some other expats at my work, but they are all here on temporary contracts so they don't intend to settle , and therefore don't have the same challenges. 

When I see all the types of help that are available  in the UK, my heart longs to come back and live there but it's not possible in the short to medium term.  The UK is the most fantastic country. There are help forums and charities for everything. There are so many kind people and social groups and clubs.  There is nothing like that here.  

When I was in UK, I was organised with my paperwork and finances.   

I guess I just felt lonely and desperate here and all the weight is on my shoulders.  

You mentioned once before ,that you have a husband!  Can he not assist you?

You mentioned once before ,that you have a husband!  Can he not assist you?

He says he can't because he don't know much more than me. He is some years younger, and has not owned a house before, whereas I have been through everything in life, divorce, moving house, paying bills, dealing with the death of one of my parents.  I have to do it because it's me that has a complicated past.  But all that was in UK.   My husband doesn't know either how to navigate all the official and financial terms.  And he promises something and doesn't do it, which for an Aspie like me is like a red rag to the bull.  He is also away travelling with work and busy socialising and going to the gym. 

In UK I would know exactly what to do.