This coming Friday, I have another capability hearing (second this year). Also still trying to sort out my sickness issue from earlier this year informally. It has taken my company two months to provide me with the minutes of an informal meeting.
Things are so frustrating, catch up meetings are called at no notice and then I need to explain there and then why I'm making mistakes.
I'm just feeling so stressed, but I can't take any time off because I won't get paid. So I seem to be in a vicious circle.
I have started to look for a new job but I'm no spring chicken.
Let me get this straight. The company you work for who have failed to produce minutes from a meeting 2 months ago (hardly a complicated task) and cancel meetings with no notice want to pick you up on your performance? They need to look in the mirror! (Are they purposely trying to trigger you by upsetting your routine?!)
If work is the cause of your stress, and the more stressed you are the more mistakes you makes, aren't they entirely to blame in this situation!
It's much easier said than done, but I think a new employer is the way forward. One that understands it's 2019. Wish you all the best
Ed S said:another capability hearing
Have you joined a Union who can advise you and support you in these meetings. If they are planning on micro managing you please get advice.
Are you diagnosed or not?
Do they recognise your stress, anxiety, depression and/or on the Autistic Spectrum?
Either of the above are classed as a disability (impairment and/or condition) in the Equality Act 2010. I have had exactly the same with my bullying manager for two years - the whole situation I am in is a mess/kludge/klusterf*** and I have no idea if/when it will change. Just make notes, records for yourself and from that it can form a discrimination case. Look at some of the other threads on here - you are not alone in the mire that is mismanagement/damagement (sic).
I can also empathise with you as meetings identified for one thing turn out to be completely different.
I'll be supported by my employee rep on Friday, he is aware of my needs. He’s also going to help me prepare my grievance case.
He’s not happy with the situation that I’ve been put in and will help me fight my case. So I’m feeling I little less stressed.
Ed S said:I'll be supported by my employee rep on Friday
Is this person trained in workplace law. I was offered to attend the meeting with someone from the Company (so called friend) but chose to get in touch with my Union. When attending the meeting it was clear HR was on the side of the Manager and didn't give any help to my situation. When I attended Occupational health it was written in my report that I was getting bullied because there were many people going off sick because of the same manager. Because the Union person was experienced he was able to see the abuse that was going on and the lies the Manager was telling. Things worked out better for me than for many others who were managed out of their jobs. Hope things work out well for you.
Meeting went as well as can be expected. I have a final warning. But I’ve been told that I won’t be sacked. My employee rep, wants me to gather some information relating my condition and mental health issues. He wants to bring it up with HR and the directors.
That is good, my company is still outside procedure but want an OH assessment to see if I am fit mentally (stress/anxiety) to be disciplined. The thing is that the bully has three points (kept changing as well btw) that I can shoot down in flames and demonstrate being singled out (discrimination).
At least your rep is on your side and not the side of the company/damagement. Good luck with it.
Thanks, I’m not diagnosed yet, but on the waiting list. However a psychiatrist has noted that I have traits and needs ratification of diagnosis.
My rep actually changed his plans to support me.
Just watch because my local NHS screening came back negative so I am going to go private as it is clear I have Aspergers/High Functioning Autism from many who experience the condition in their jobs.