Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, I am wondering what peoples views are on whether autism/ASD is hereditary. My daughter, now 18, was diagnosed age 15. Her assessment came as a result of being an inpatient for a severe eating disorder. 6 months later my son was diagnosed at age 19. Neither my husband or myself have been diagnosed or assessed but I can't help wondering how we managed to bring our lovely children up for 15 years without picking up on the ASD. My daughter was always anxious but it appeared to be manageable. Retrospectively it clearly was not manageable and she ended up very ill.
Anyhow, I was wondering if the reason that we hadn't picked up on any ASD traits is because in our house eveybody's behaviors is perfectly typical. When we discussed how they played as children both my husband and me said to the psychologist 'but doesn't everyone play like that?'. In the tasks that they did for the ADOS they gave responses that we thought were typical responses. My husband has always been widely regarded as eccentric but he has been very fortunate in his employment in that everyone loves him for his eccentricity (including me). I myself am extremely introverted and hate social situations, avoiding them at all costs unless absolutely unavoidable. So I was wondering if the reason why both my children have ASD could be because either me or my husband (or both) unknowingly have it, and maybe that is why we haven't picked it up in our children. That is to say in our house ASD is normal and most others walking through our front door are in effect neuro atypical! I would appreciate your thoughts. Thanks.
I said there were no signs of autism in my parents. However in the assessment report it says my stepdaughter has said my father has quite a few similar traits to me.
Once I started looking for traits or, more often, clusters of traits, I found a lot more evidence within my wider family.
Of course, many of them have a very narrow idea of what autism is, which means they instantly reject the idea. When, however we're looking for difficulties in socialising or interpersonal skills, the conversation loosens up. Likewise when we talk about reclusive behaviours or even terms such as "breakdown" or "bad nerves", which the older generation seem to use more readily.
Overall I find that, since the whole field of autism has developed and changed over the generations and previous generations framed some issues differently, there's actually a language barrier in this area. And it might all change again for future generations. But the underlying issues remain the same.
My father said when I asked him that he could see no signs of autism in me as a child. That being 44-62 years ago it's probable he was thinking of much narrower definitions of it that were around at that time.
Jenny Butterfly said:Plus, of course, i can't believe it was EVER considered OK to describe someone as a "sheep" or to slap a pupil's face. What on earth!
It absolutely is not OK and if it were to happen to my children I'd be outraged. But because it happened to me I'm weirdly OK with, I've learnt to deal with a lot, even at that age. I remember it but it didn't scar me, when I think back I have no emotion attached to that memory. If anything it makes me smile, I was standing up for my younger brother at the time.
I remember a lot of bullying at primary school that was simply ignored. It usually only got dealt with when those who were being bullied had enough and hit back. I was bullied too, but again, I have no emotional attachment to those memories. I blanked it out. I don't even know if I was aware at the time I was being bullied.