I’m a 20 year old on the spectrum and have such difficulty with understanding people.
My best friend is also on the spectrum and we spend a lot of time together. Sometimes he calls me when I don’t want to be disturbed which makes me anxious.
He prefers calling and I prefer texting. I prefer texting because it gives me more time to think and also gives me time to process as processing skills are quite a huge difficulty for me. He prefers calling because he is a very chatty lad and I wonder if it’s motivating for him to keep the conversation going.
I don’t know how I can express this to him without him thinking I’m ignoring him or him thinking I’m angry with him. I appreciate that he’s checking on me which is so sweet of him when really I want space and time by myself.
I find it hard to explain my processing and communication difficulties because I find I’m always masking and people don’t believe that’s the way I function.
Some helpful tips on how to communicate my situation to him would be nice. ;)
I'm exactly the same.
I always prefer dealing with people in writing. It gives me more time to think and gives me time to process. I also need time to translate.
And I almost do not phones at all. I only speak on the phone with one person know and even then I would prefer to text or e-mail if I could with the person.