Hello everyone. I'm writing this in the hopes that some of you may have been in a similar situation and found a way out. I feel so alone but I feel like there's nothing I can do about it. I don't have any friends anymore, I haven't for years now. My routine for the last 2 1/2 years has been go to work, come home and play the xbox or watch netflix. Go to bed, wake up and do it all again. I brothers that ocassionally play with me, but they have their own lives and do their own things too. The only people I do have are my immediate family but because i'm around them so much I feel like i'm always sick of their company. I can't reqlly go out and do things unless they will aswell, because of my anxiety it is hard to go and do things on my own. Can you see my problem? I'm either on my own or with family but feel like I need to be away from them at thr same time. I attend a social group that hasn't been going too well. And i've tried online dating or looking for events but they all cost. It seems like anything I want to try to be more social costs money. Money that i'm reluctant to spend as I'd probably pay for a dating event and be too anxious to show up. I just don't know what to do anymore
Do you have any interests such as reading, art or film? Most of these interests have clubs. Book clubs, art clubs and film clubs. The good thing about these sort of activities is that you know beforehand what the topic is going to be. I used to belong to a film club that I just turned up and watched the film and went home again for a while, until I felt comfortable enough to take part in any discussions.
There is a forum called wrongplanet that may have a dating section - I don’t know.
Walking groups through the Ramblers Association may be another gentle way to get yourself among other people. Museums and art galleries are good places to practise getting out on your own.