Published on 12, July, 2020
How do you guys go about turning down parties? I can't deal with big social events at all and avoid them like the plague for a variety of reasons (anxious amongst lots of people, will not dress up for going out, hardly like any food so meals are a problem, noise, can't deal with all the conversations). I don't really like to explain this to people especially as I'm not diagnosed so I can't even give that as a reason. I usually go with distance or money. There is a party being organised for work at the moment and several people are trying to persuade me to go. I find these conversations very difficult and they keep coming up with solutions to my reasons for not going. How would other people deal with this?
I'm not diagnosed so I can't even give that as a reason.
Are you self-diagnosed ? I started from that (I’m still doing my research) but until I didn’t have some sort of confirmation from a specialist (I’m still not clinically diagnosed but initial assessment confirmed my concerns) I didn’t share it with anybody apart my wife.
Now I think it is easier, when I can give reason to people and probably I needed reason for myself to stop kicking myself that I don’t perform to my expectations.
Yes. Self diagnosed. I haven't plucked up the courage to get a formal diagnosis. I certainly have a lot of traits. But I can't give it as a reason as I don't have anything medical to back it up.
I haven't plucked up the courage to get a formal diagnosis.
It could, then, be a good way forwards for you. Before my diagnosis, I always had to find excuses for things. And sometimes I didn't even really know why I was depressed, etc. The diagnosis gave me answers, and it gave me the validation I needed. In some ways, I think, it has made me more confident about myself.
You are probably right. It's been on my mind for a while. But to take that step and actually speak to a doctor about it. I just haven't got there yet.