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Bullying - With Experience

Disambiguating Cynosure
over 5 years ago

Greetings. This is one of those Threads which I have been meaning to start for a very very long time. Adults and "People with Children" are welcome to Post and/or "Vent", equally. Please feel free to write anything... and if you can, end it with some resolution/positve hindsight/result.

This is a bad Topic, which I am fed up of seeing sidelined or not fully discussed. "Being Bullied At School" is/was also actually a part of the "Diagnostic Criteria" for ASCs! Please share here experiences, and how you did or would have dealt with them. The more shared, I honestly believe, the more is learnt, if this is is discussed openly and without reservation, Thank You.

I shall begin with only a few things. Advice for dealing with Bullies includes "Ignoring them" and "Laughing them away". This advice does not work, as they either give chase, or they think that Bullying is being *enjoyed* by ALL concerned! 

Thanks for any replies in advance.

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  • over 5 years ago

    Hi there, sorry to hear about your experience. The answer is not to be in silenced in any way shape or form. I understand where you are coming from the 'just ignore them' phrases etc. It has no effect whatsoever. Whichever way you look at bullying, cyber-bullying it is wrong on so many levels.

    I myself have been bullied before in the past, it was not a pleasant experience. Although, I managed to speak out to someone who I trust. There is little point trying to 'retaliate' as this doesn't immediately solve the problem(s). Also, you have to remember you as an individual has high morals as well as dignity, integrity and respect. It is only vanity that will get the better of you or the 'bully' (in most situations).

    Know that you don't have to endure in silence or upset. You are your own person; you do not have to abide by them 'bullies'. You are worth more than that to be treated for less than you deserve. Bullies take advantage of an individual's weakness or vulnerability for granted which is not right. If I could suggest something it would be to stand up for what you believe in without leading to anything confrontational. Bullies prey and take pride on doing so. For some, it makes them feel like a 'top dog' or 'status'.

    Saying that, I acknowledge this may seem frightening or overwhelming. It might be worth sharing with a few friends or people you are close to. Not so, you have 'backup' but that you aren't on your own or to prove a point in numbers.  It is to show you have support and if necessary you will take the next action.

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  • over 5 years ago

    Hi there, sorry to hear about your experience. The answer is not to be in silenced in any way shape or form. I understand where you are coming from the 'just ignore them' phrases etc. It has no effect whatsoever. Whichever way you look at bullying, cyber-bullying it is wrong on so many levels.

    I myself have been bullied before in the past, it was not a pleasant experience. Although, I managed to speak out to someone who I trust. There is little point trying to 'retaliate' as this doesn't immediately solve the problem(s). Also, you have to remember you as an individual has high morals as well as dignity, integrity and respect. It is only vanity that will get the better of you or the 'bully' (in most situations).

    Know that you don't have to endure in silence or upset. You are your own person; you do not have to abide by them 'bullies'. You are worth more than that to be treated for less than you deserve. Bullies take advantage of an individual's weakness or vulnerability for granted which is not right. If I could suggest something it would be to stand up for what you believe in without leading to anything confrontational. Bullies prey and take pride on doing so. For some, it makes them feel like a 'top dog' or 'status'.

    Saying that, I acknowledge this may seem frightening or overwhelming. It might be worth sharing with a few friends or people you are close to. Not so, you have 'backup' but that you aren't on your own or to prove a point in numbers.  It is to show you have support and if necessary you will take the next action.

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