Ive struggled my whole life, and still cant do simple things like go to the shop, use public transport, use the phone etc. Ive saw a few phychologists, councillers and CBT never worked.. it was never taken seriously.. was told maybe im just too shy.. or social anxiety. Ive never fitted in, in the past few years i found out more about autism and i knew right then.. this is me 100% so i did all the online tests scoring the highest possible scores. Printed it out and went to my GP. He was shocked i had never been assessed for autism before, so said he would refer me. 2 months later i get a letter from the hospital to attend an appointment with the psychiatrist.......
I went yesterday to my appointment all prepared. I had wrote notes down to remind me of what to bring up, what to say as my mind goes blank and i struggle to process things. I sat down, she went right to asking me questions so i look at my notes and she shouts to me to put my notes away! And i start stressing out and tell her i need them so there was pure silence i couldnt think of a thing to say... it was horrible... so i peek over to my notes and she tells me no! Put them away! I was fidgiting with my phone and she says " no phone " she barley spoke english and could barley understand me. She didnt care after 5mins she says " i dont know why you were even sent to me what a waste of time" my friend tried to help me and speak for me and she kept shh'ing her!!! She said everyone has a bit of autism, and she hates changes in routine too and said woman are no different to males. I came out heartbroken.. tears... went to bed at like 4pm hid under my covers. She did say shed write to my GP to refer to the specialist team. But i have no idea who that is and i cannot be waiting 2-3 years what can i do... i feel lost... no support... no nothing.. and im still crying over this woman yesterday!!!!
I'm sorry to hear about your experience with the psychiatrist, which sounds very distressing and unhelpful. I would recommend you bring this up with your GP the next time you see them, and you also may want to look at the NHS complaints procedure - https://www.nhs.uk/nhsengland/complaints-and-feedback/pages/nhs-complaints.aspx - to make a formal complaint. The Patient Advice and Liaison Service mentioned on that page might be helpful for a situation like this. If you are interested in doing making a complaint, it would probably help to get your friend to write up a statement of her experience of the appointment just as you have done here so that you have two accounts of events.
Hope this is of some help,
Ross - mod