Has anyone else here NEVER been "on Holiday" as an (Autistic) Adult? Either within the British Isles or, especially, leaving the Country.When at school, I was allowed - with the School - to visit The Isle Of Wight, and France, and then Belgium...But now that I am an adult (since leaving school)... London is as if imposed as a Prison, which financial constraints prevent me from ever escaping. And so I am curious as to whether anyone else has 'Never Really Been Allowed To Have A Vacation', just like myself...
Not sure what you mean by:
'Never Really Been Allowed To Have A Vacation'
What's stopping you?
I've already mentioned that my family background is insane. There was a period of years where my mother tried to prevent me from even leaving the house. I only went out shopping and even then if I was out for more than an hour there were rows and sulking. Even signing on was difficult. I was a virtual prisoner.
Robert123 said:What's stopping you?
Glad Tidings, and I am glad that it is someone familiar (sort of) with myself upon this Forum that replied first. !
To reply to that which I quoted from your good self there. . the short answer would be... MONEY.
Yet I can perhaps identify - a little bit - with the rest. I live in a family house, and am often asked about where I am going if I leave it. It is both a good and a constraining thing. It is good to know that persons care about me, yet bad that it somewhat imposes upon one's freedom... and so I do not mind it so much. What I do mind is MONEY allowing one to go to anyplace. Which was the main question...?
There are however cheap holidays available.
In 2015 I travelled a lot on cheap coach package holidays. Which included cheap hotels with bed, breakfast and evening meals included. As well as sightseeing trips.
Example, 5 day trip to Scotland for only £154
Thank You, Good Sir, for your answer. Living in London, that is a very large amount of money to myself. "Saving" is difficult, hence my reply....
As an adult I have only been on holiday once and that was in 1989. I was working at the time and managed to afford a week in Königswinter, Germany.
Since then I have never been on holiday because either I could not afford one or I refused to place my rescue cat(s) in a cattery (they had spent long enough alone in a cat sanctuary before I adopted them).
I've done a fair amount of traveling - mainly alone - and I'd like to do some more. When I have some money, maybe. I once traveled around the US and Canada on Greyhound buses, and there's a strong part of me that's attracted to that itinerant, no-plans approach. In more recent years, though, it's always been organised down the the smallest detail to prevent anything from going wrong - and I'm always hyper-anxious until I'm there. I like France. I know a few words - enough to get by with basics, but not enough for a conversation. So it's nice to go there and not feel I have to engage anyone in conversation. My ex was French, and she was the only one in her family who spoke English. So when we went to her parents, they would all be talking away to each other (they could have been saying all sorts of bad things about me, to be honest!), whilst I sat at the end of the table and got quietly drunk on my own! I enjoyed that, in a perverse sort of way. I was in a social situation - but I couldn't socialise!
I've done quite a bit, but I'm the generation that has always had low-cost airlines, I've been to virtually every European country on low cost flights, last year I went to Berlin and the flight was £59 (inc. taxes, booking fees). Up until the Brexit vote and currency devaluation it could often be cheaper to go away to Europe than stay in the UK (The trip to Berlin was cheap, four days in Berlin did cost roughly the same as 7 in the UK though. Apart from the Europe I've done the US, Canada, Israel, Egypt, Singapore, Hong Kong and Australia. I wouldn't ever go at peak times, but not having kids and planning in advance I can often get a good deal.
I don't like expensive holidays, it's spending money on something intangible, something which I don't really need, especially as my focus for the last few years has been saving the deposit to buy a house, but reasonable holidays haven't cost me that much and now in my own house I don't plan to go abroad next year, but then I'll fully have my own space so I get some of that me time anyway.
One of your problems might be living in London, if I lived in London I would have had to buy a much smaller house (probably a one or two bed flat) and my living costs would be higher which would probably rule out holidays.
Well, Thank You to all who have replied... and this Thread was a short question, and so I expected it to be short... and the "short" answer to my question so far seems to be that I am indeed the only one!
I quote MattBucks in order to say that he is correct, utterly. Money is mad. Money is a matter not mentioned in mass conversation. That Money is never mentioned is one of the greatest frustrations presented by society. Even travelling from South London to North London now costs more than Ten Pounds, and newspapers and the Internet should inform anyone of how these costs simply increase.
In short, what I want or need to do, is not what I am allowed to do (by Money). This Post is long, and so I close it now, or else it may disappear...!
Lastly... I wanted to add that, that, as a child, I *did* gain a family holiday to America. But I was asking about being an ADULT. As an adult, I twice afforded myself two trips to the coast, in secret, not telling my family. Since then, the prices have become beyond what I can afford.
I travelled to the coast, for a couple of hours... and simply stood...for hours... looking at... THE OCEAN. It was amazing and unreal for me to actually be able to see... THE HORIZON!!
I will agree with you. Money is the big issue.
When I had money a few years ago I spent a lot of it on traveling and holidays to make up for the fact that I didn't have holidays when I was younger due to commitments and health problems.
From about 2009 to 2014 I was very ill, first one problem then another, having several spells in hospitals and a couple of operations.
When I recovered I started traveling. First alone by bus and train. Going on day trips. I was afraid of staying overnight in hotels because I didn't know what to do or how to behave.
Then I went on package holidays by coach. Staying in a variety of funny hotels. Still travelling alone but being part of a group at the same time.
My recommendation is that if you have the money then spending it on holidays is worthwhile.