This response is from an individual who visits a site that caters for Aspergers people, it is in response to a long list of potential traits of a Male aspie.
I found it very interesting and I have always maintained that if there was an island just for ND people and they were left alone to be who they truly are it would work.
It would take a generation or two of learning and forgetting incorrect learnings of trying to be NT.
They would in a closed protected environment become the new ASD neurotypicals.
• Anonymous said… As a woman with AS who has been happily married for almost 30 years to a man with AS, the mother of a daughter and four sons who are all on the spectrum, the grandmother of little Spectrumites and as a fully human being with a complete range of emotions I would like to say that it is the mis-match between different neurologies that causes most of the problems. Oh, and I'm the daughter and grand-daughter of Spectrumites too. I have dropped my non-AS 'friends' over the years as I was unable to meet their expectations that I should change to be more like them. They never tried to understand me, yet expected ME to understand THEM! I have great Spectrum friends and we have fortnightly family get-togethers that are huge fun. Socializing with other Spectrumites is easy. We understand each other’s body language; eye-contact is not a problem nor is bluntness and honesty in conversation. We make allowances for each other's sensory difficulties and can tell if the other is uncomfortable, and why
Do you think the NTs would miss us?...would we miss them?
The NT wouldn’t notice in social situations, they would notice suddenly our talents that are mostly unrecognised by them but which they have become reliant on.
We would miss there lack of understanding and the refusal to allow us to coexist without prejudice.
The autopia way of life in theory could work.
What if we all hit meltdown at the same time? What if sometime decided to declare themselves as “leader”....and divide the colony in term of detractors and loyalists? Are nds devoid of ambition ?
Why would anyone have a “meltdown”?
There would be an agreed upon nominated person who has sufficient knowledge and skill to give guidance in whatever needs managing within the social expectations of the majority, but unlike NT ways there would not be greed and manipulation to corrupt the common goals.
I only see acceptance,understanding, tolerance and being able to exhist as the major expectations of such a community,