i'm a 29 yr old man with aspergers syndrome I haven't worked for 5 years I live alone have no friends and don't know how to get out of this rut I'm in I'm fed up with ritualistic/repetitive behaviours I see my whole life passing by In front of me I just want it all to go away I just want a normal life I literally do the same thing everyday, wander into town have breakfast come home play games watch t.v this isn't the life I wanted I should have a job a family ect I ******* hate the world
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I will definitely keep you informed and I agree, we would all know how we can contribute and even if the contribution was nil at times, we would all understand and do what we can to help each other. It's going to happen, because it can't not, I see my only alternative as a mediocre life that I can just about manage, and that's not good enough. They say it takes single pointed determination to succeed in life, and I have definitely got that and more. I've got 5 years worth of in depth study on how to achieve success and although life is very slow just now, what I am learning is mindblowing, and is building me a very strong foundation on which to build my dream. It is happening. X
Hi NAS35296! Just wanted to say we are taking over your thread somewhat, but I hope it allows you to see there are possibilities to having something to do rather than just work, volunteer to help others, help build if you can,many people feed and house volunteers in payment for work.
I hope you get some inspiration from all of our dreams and aspirations, x()x
It's my new obsession so I follow lots of people on youtube who are either vandwellers or live in tiny homes and I'm learning loads of stuff. If I ever get an idea, I usually just go for it but this time it's different. Due to my inability to do very little at all just now, I am actually learning a lot of valuable stuff and getting some great ideas for my van and tiny home. As it has been said in other posts, I just need to keep being ok with where I'm at just now and continue to allow this to unfold because when I do, I see the great insights etc that I'm getting. I love the welsh tiny homes, some good ideas.
So glad you are fighting to get what you want, I have still yet to convince my NT partner of the ideology.
It is something I always wanted in my life, I have many skills and knowledge regarding construction and tool use, I have always worked with my hands,
I dug the footings for a large cob house now completed, it didn’t need any but the local council planning office weren’t sure so insisted it had concrete ones just in case?
I also dug down into subsoil and mixed a lot of the cob with an excavator, all was applied by hand, lovely thatched roof, thick walls, I still see the owner who started a small holding before the cob house, we often talk of wind energy and water power, lakes for fish, grants for tree planting, which can provide fire wood and be negative carbon neutral, you give back more oxygen and reduce co2 with saplings more than the burning gives off of CO2.
please keep me posted as even if I don’t get to be in my autopia I can smile as I see those of you with conviction succeed.
All would be welcome to my place if it ever became reality.
Totally Lonewarrior. I think that whatever we write on here, it's for all of us and @NAS35296, I have been thinking of you, especially when I'm feeling all exhausted and desperate, not to say that you are, but to say, hey, I really know how you feel and no matter how much we want out of this, sometimes it feels impossible, but those times pass if we allow them and allow ourselves to think differently. To think outside of the NT box and think about what we actually want. When we get a picture or an idea of how we would like our life to be, not from an nt perspective, but from our own perspective, then we CAN achieve it. For example, whether I like it or not, I just can't be around people too much, so I am creating a life where my contact with other people is only (or largely) with the people I want it to be with and for how long etc. Start with you and think about what you want and what would make an ideal world for you and you honestly CAN achieve it.
Well said BlueRay kind and factual words.
Oh yes, this is what I love, self sustainable living, permaculture, earth ships etc, solar energy, the lot, there is so much that can be done and with a community, it can be done much quicker and easier. The group in Devon who got the council to let them live off the land are doing great and I realised that this is the only way I can actually live, although my ideas differ slightly from the Devon group. They live off the land but I intend to earn an income as well because I want to continue travelling, which takes a certain amount of money. Even if your partner didn't come round to the idea, you will always have a home there, you can come and get your hands dirty any time. It's like no matter how desperate I get, I can't let go of this dream and something always shows me that I am in fact making progress. So many of us are intelligent, gifted, talented, loving, kind and thoughtful people and we are being eaten up by the NT world and I can't let that happen. I'm not fighting against them, how can they know what we need unless we tell them, but I am fighting for our right to a fulfilling and purposeful life, whatever that may look like for each of us. When I worked as a social worker, I always got what my clients needed because I would quote the law in my assessments, so they couldn't deny me. They used the law to stop people from getting what they needed so I played them at their own game and I was successful but now I've got an even bigger fight and I won't give in. I can't stand by and let beautiful people suffer when I know we can do something about it so this is my life now and it might not always be easy but I won't give in. It's a slow process but it's happening. Thank you for your encouragement and support, it is much much appreciated. XXXXX
Than you BlueRay. For the offer I will gladly turn up.even if it just to give advice and lend a hand, My idea of a holiday!
I am sure my OH would enjoy the countryside and the nature and freedom to wander.
You are approaching this in the right way, there are always pitfalls, they can be overcome by seeking knowledge and working the system, you are obviously the right person to do that,
I hate injustice of all kinds, I will fight for anyone who is in need, it is one of my faults actually as I have had my trust and free giving nature used by some. Nothing serious but used never the less.
keep your mind open.meet the ones that have taken the journey.
Learn as much as you can,
I look forward to having a message one day inviting me to come see your newly acquired land!
I am posting this link for NAS35296 as an idea of what is available out there, you spoke of travelling the world!
I do not know anything about this resource but it has a map of possible locations for volunteering your help and hard work, the satisfaction of doing good and being rewarded both by being fed and sheltered and to give a peace of mind is maybe what you need, a real reason to exhist,travel and have a reason to keep going and a history of achieving.
Are you going to post the link?