Published on 12, July, 2020
ive been struggling a lot lately with my daughter. Sometimes she'll cry and I feel like I don't understand her at times. or if she is really loud and demanding attention?
I feel like she doesn't understand me either and we lack communication.
Can anyone relate and how did you cope?
any help would be appreciated. Thanks
Hi wow. Everything for me reading this has made sense. I thought it was just me.
My youngest 2 are 5 & 6 (can't wait for the older stages, lol) Through the young years, I generally just tell them to go play for a while. For kids when you need some down time, I make messy things for them to play with. If you don't mind the mess that is. Like I make playdough and give them all sorts of things in the kitchen to play with. I make special sand (baby oil & flour mixed) and it is fun, messy and keeps them entertained for a while. I make indoor dirt which is coffee grounds used then baked dry, flour, corn meal, salt mix and give to them to play with tupperware lids and cookie cutters. Anyhow, it is a lot better than plopping them in front of the TV just to get an hour of 'me time'.
My daughter is 4 so doesn't understand that sometimes too much noise or attention at once overwhelms me and that I need to be left alone. I know she is 4 and doesn't understand but I find it frustrating.
Or sometimes I just fail to understand that if she is crying, it's for a reason. I get snappy and don't understand why she is crying. It's usually loud and it overwhelms me.
I feel rather misunderstanding and emotionless towards her as I have no patience :\
I had a hard time when my first daughter started puberty. Very emotional. I knew I didn't deal with it like other moms. I just told her to go sit on her bed until she could collect herself. Turns out, a non emotional reply to her emotional turmoil was the best reaction! Who knew? lol