Hi Everyone I am new to the forum
my names kayleigh, I have 4 children, 3 boys and 1 girl. Their ages are 10, 4, 3 and 1. My 4 year old has ASD. I was just wondering does anyone ever get down with life just the pressure of it all, the repetitiveness, the meltdowns and behaviour ect? Or is it just me?
Its so bad and extreme sometimes that I feel like I can’t carry on and do this anymore. It’s so draining and I just don’t feel like I have any sort of life. Am always tired, am mentally drained, I have zero energy!
please does this get any easier/better?
We have various different resources for parents here on the site, like the Parents and Carers advice section - http://www.autism.org.uk/about/family-life/parents-carers.aspx - or the family support services - http://www.autism.org.uk/services/community/family-support.aspx. We also have a directory of autism related services that you can search to find additional help and support in your local area - http://www.autism.org.uk/directory.aspx.
However, since you describe feeling drained and low energy and perhaps won't want to sift through all this information at the moment, I would recommend you call the NAS helpline and describe how you're feeling and what might help you, and see what advice and support they are able to offer. The number for the helpline is 0808 800 4104, and it's available 10am-4pm Mon-Thurs, 9am-3pm Friday. I hope you're able to get some support that eases the pressure you describe.
Hope this is of some help,
Ross - mod
I really understand you.
I feel like this at the workplace.
I just can’t seem to snap out of it. I feel very down and depressed and am trying not to for my kids.
Hi, my daughter is 4, almost 5, and I feel just as you describe! I feel zero energy, I feel like she sucks my energy away and I have no time for my other kids because when I try she goes mental. I feel mentally and physically drained and I don’t have anybody else to help me.
I can say one thing though some days are easier than others, and usually it is a trigger that sets us off on bad Days/weeks. For example she was doing really well for about 3mpnths until she was told by a social worker her dad wants to see her again (this was 5weeka ago) and still she is disruptive and can see a massive change I. Her behaviour!
i think as life goes on you will notice the triggers and be able to avoid them but as our children are still young we may have a few years of never ending battles ahead haha!
Sendingg you hugs and healing wishes hun!