Published on 12, July, 2020
hi there my wife is suffering with bad depression after we had to move to another town as our old flat was going on the market. she has Asperger syndrome and ocd ,ever since then her mood has been so low that she is always saying she wishes she was dead. i love her so much but i dont know what to do or say anymore nothing i say to her helps shes trying to self harm again and its not that i havent tried the doctors but they haven't really done a thing to help her not really. i wish i could afford some private counselling for her but as we are on UC and her PIP we cant really afford it. i really dont know where else to turn to its so distressing watching the women i love like this. any help will be gratefully received
Hi NAS35934
Would she possibly agree to talk to others here? I do not have ASD but have struggled w/post trauma depression & my young adult daughter on the spectrum struggled for a long time w/both depression & self-harm. She also has severe anxiety & OCD. Perhaps sharing with others here may help her feel more stable. I've found great generosity & good advice from the members & have no doubt your wife could too. Tell her she's welcome & not alone - & neither are you alone.
thanks i will try and convince her to reach out on here for support i love her to bits i just want her to be happy
You're a good guy @NAS35934. You're lucky to have each other.
Anxiety & over thinking are things both my hubby & daughter experience too. My DD (Dear daughter) is actually really beautiful (a surprise as hubby & I are plain people) & well liked. But she's convinced she's ugly & unlikable. Sometimes I can get thru to her pointing out that it's an insult to me & others she knows love her, to believe we'd love someone "unworthy". I'm often too able to describe the things DH (Dear husband) & DD contribute to my life that I'd be the less for not having. For example, DH shares my love of history & it's a deep pleasure for me to have that kind of intellectual companionship. My DD has an awesomely quirky mind - explores thoughts & has interests I'd never think of or explore on my own. She's exposed me to gothic art & now I appreciate that too. Maybe you can tonight, not tell, but engage your wife in one of the things she's good at that she helps you with? What does she give that nobody else can? Ask for it & mean it.. She may find comfort & confidence doing for somebody else - you.
well i just love her so much and i want her to except herself for who she is and that i love her for who she is and i want her to be proud to be who she is. i will always support her and be here for her. i just dont want her to feel alone she is such a lovely person as with all autistic people she has a hard time making friends. i try to show her that she really does have alot of friends i think its just hard for her to realize people like her.