Struggling with the a word

My 3 year old was referred to see more and more people after popping into a speech therapy drop in because he wasn't saying anything at 2.

Now after a series of appointments we had an assessment and they've said he has severe social and communication disorder. She's said it will be a severe form of autism but will see him again next year to make diagnosis. 

We go to specialised play group which are fantastic for him. But when ever he is referred to as autistic, special needs or anything else I feel so defensive and have to bite my tongue. I personally struggle attending the group every week because it's a group for sen kids only. What makes me more upset is how well he fits in. 

I know that he needs help and I am more than on board but I can't stand him being branded disabled, special needs or autistic. It's like a mental block on my part but I feel offended when people mention it. I've never argued or reacted to these feelings but I need to change my mind set but I'm lost how to do that. 

  • Hi matt1990 just want to send a hug firstly, then ask that you be a little kind to yourself. 

    it sounds to me like you are doing all you can to help your child and this means a lot. 

    I think you should take time to grieve. This may sound strange but you are probably in shock being told that your child has a severe form of autism. You need time to deal with this and come to terms with how different your life is now from how you thought it would be as a family.

    In time wth adjustment you will find a new way for you and your son.

    it won’t be easy but with support for him and support and friendship for yourself you won’t feel so raw emotionally.

    keep speaking to people who understand, forums are a great way of doing this.

    i hope this helps...