Issues with greetings, saying "Hello" and using peoples names.

Hi All,

Just wondered if anyone else could identify with the problems I have around greetings. Every day when my partner comes home and shouts "Hi" it's like I have a mental block that makes me feel slightly angry and I just don't want to say hello to him. It's almost a physical reaction that I cannot force myself to do it. It's not that I am not happy he's home its just getting past that initial greeting. The same thing can happen when I visit people close to me such as my Mum. I prefer to just start chatting about something important than have to say "Hello" It just feels a bit pointless. 

I also have an issue with using names. I never call my boyfriend by his name (to his face, can use his name when talking about him), never have done with previous boyfriends either or many people that I am close too, this has been a problem and upset people including my Dad as I found it hard to call him Dad. It's amazing how easy it is to get away without the need for use of names.  

All of this is easier for me with people I am not so familiar with. Doesn't mean I enjoy it, just find it easier going through these motions with people that I have to - like those at work, than people I am closer to. 

Could this be an autism trait or is this a whole new issue?

Thanks

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  • I do use a short 'Hi', but that's usually with work collegues or 'friends', to try and forestall "Hello, how are you doing? Had a good weekend?" etc.

    I can't remember when I last called my wife by her name (unless shouting upstairs to get her attention), but then I can't remember when she called me by my name.  She also has Asperger's - not formally diagnosed, but she did say she would have answered all the questions in the diagnostic interview the same as I...

  • I definitely have problems with 'How are you', because that usually means I have to lie.

  • I definitely have problems with 'How are you', because that usually means I have to lie.

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  • also if such a caring person asks I invariably have to way up wether I can really explain in such a short time and if I am feeling sufficiently stable in mind,?

    , I was so upset one morning that when a certain person asked if I was alright I had to turn away and go quickly, all day I felt terrible for doing that, I later told them how sorry I was ,and that I knew they really cared, but I would have burst into tears, they understood and said if I ever needed to talk I could.

    a rare person these days, 

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  • also if such a caring person asks I invariably have to way up wether I can really explain in such a short time and if I am feeling sufficiently stable in mind,?

    , I was so upset one morning that when a certain person asked if I was alright I had to turn away and go quickly, all day I felt terrible for doing that, I later told them how sorry I was ,and that I knew they really cared, but I would have burst into tears, they understood and said if I ever needed to talk I could.

    a rare person these days, 

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