This sums up my kind of love Martian Tom
My love is not kind and gentle like your love. It’s not fair and gives nothing, other than itself. It fierce and unrelenting and it leads me, I don’t lead it.
I don’t know about transcendent love, other than what I learned from you today, but this sums up my love.
BlueRay said:I frequently, probably at least once a week, say good morning or whatever to all the people in my life who have died, such as grandparents, family, and friends, I talk to them pretty regularly and often ask for the advice etc as well. I have no idea if they hear me or not, if doesn’t really matter, because they’re in my heart and I just like to talk to them and stuff and keep them in my life.
I do this all the time - particularly with mum. I keep a ritual every Wednesday evening, between 7 pm and 7.22 pm - the last 22 minutes I spent alone with her before she passed. I light candles... and I sit and think about her, and talk to her. It's very comforting. I can't think I'll ever not do it.
Yeah, I find it very comforting as well and I think I’ll always talk to them, I think I always have so can’t imagine not doing it. I can’t look at the stars either without remembering them all, and there’s quite a list, so it’s good for helping me with memory skills as well. I have little jokes as well, such as I often wonder if my 3 best friend’s (all male) can see me now, so therefore when I’m naked etc, so there’s no place to hide in my life! Lol! I imagine they see everything so it’s like I’m sharing my life with them in a way I wouldn’t with a live person. I think I feel closer to them all now than when they were alive.
I don’t really know about love.
I am not certain that I understand what it really is. And I have some doubts as to whether it really exists.
I do think, however, that ‘loving unconditionally’ is a condition in its own right.
I do, therefore, ‘love’ an infinite regress..., if that helps?
I don’t think it’s possible to really know love, not in the usual sense of knowing. It’s more an experience and each person’s experience of it will of course be different. However, no matter how different the experience, there is no doubt about the experience of love. Those who have experienced it may struggle to describe it but they all know what it means, even if explanations differ.
I’m not sure how loving unconditionally is a condition but it’s sounds interesting. Please explain that to me as I can’t undetstand it and I have no idea at all what that means ~ to love an infinite regress! Lol!
Thank you for you answer, yes, it helps, I look talking about this stuff. Thank you.
I guess I am thinking that, if you love people unconditionally, (which I understand to mean loving them without any conditions placed upon them that they must fulfill in order to receive your love ...) then that in itself is a condition on you, i.e you must love people unconditionally (i.e no matter what...) That is a condition (placed on you) in itself isn't it? Or have I got the total wrong end of the stick here?
An infinite regress is broadly speaking (in my understanding,) when someone is asked to justify their answer and then they find that their answer/justification actually only creates another further question, and this process goes on to infinity (and beyond.)
When we start hitting the infinite regresses and the paradoxes, these are my most favourite things .